Struggling

My baby’s 5 weeks old and I am really struggling. I knew it would be hard but it’s so much harder in reality. She won’t be put down without waking up after 5 minutes. Won’t be put down at night either. I can’t do anything without doing it one handed holding her. Every night she spends hours being stressed and crying and really difficult to console, fighting sleep and nothing I do seems to help her for more than 30 seconds. I’m just putting this out there wondering if others are going through the same. It’s a lot.

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Having a newborn is hard, you are not alone! I have a 3 week old and a 2 year old and me and my partner are struggling a lot especially since my 2 year olds behaviour has got a lot worse recently. My 3 week old has reflux so I can’t lie her down anywhere without her being sick so I’m also stuck holding her all the time and my partner has to look after the toddler. However from having my first I can tell you it does get easier! There will be new challenges along the way but you will get over them, they aren’t newborns forever x

My LB is 7 weeks old tomorrow and only in the last week has this new life (which it is) felt easier. He has started to calm down and smile at me which in itself is rewarding. 3 weeks ago I didn’t believe any of the people that kept saying ‘it will get easier’ but it does, I don’t know how or why but it does. I had moments in the first few weeks where I thought I’d made a mistake and my LB was through IVF so very much wanted. These weeks go so fast but the days feel long. You will find your feet but if you want to message me to rant, please do 🫶🏻

My LO is also 5 weeks and doesn’t stay asleep during the day unless held… doesn’t help you for night time but have you tried baby wearing at all? I bought a wrap last week and it’s felt life changing to at least be able to have both hands free for a while! And I’ve read that sleep begets sleep so possible that if she sleeps more during the day it may help at night?

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