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I have been with my partner since we were both 18 and now we are both 30.

We have a 2.5 year old, a dog and I’m 31 weeks pregnant with our second.

I still have worked up until this point, I have one more shift left (extremely stressful because they haven’t bothered doing a risk assessment which I am aware is illegal)

I still look after my toddler and dog everyday including meals, dog walks, activities etc

I still do all the washing, ironing, hoovering, watering plants, gardening, changing beddings, mopping, dishes etc including washing and ironing all his clothes.

The other day I was in pain and I didn’t walk the dog so he commented on the fact I hadn’t, tonight he came in from work I’ve looked after my toddler all day whose had very bad diarrhoea as he’s currently poorly, everything was done from hoovering, mopping etc however I’d left 3 dishes in the sink and he had a nerve to comment.

Am I being unreasonable to be pissed off with that? I told him wait until we have another then you’ll know what mess is plus I have changed my toddlers bedding, hoovered, mopped the whole house, toys are put away and apart from a bit of washing and 3 dishes in the sink there’s barely anything I feel I’ve done bloody well considering but of course he’s going to pick out what I haven’t done.

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I'm so sorry you're going through this.

You're 100% not being unreasonable. You also sound like you do A LOT on a regular basis, especially for a pregnant woman who has a partner to share the load with.

For comparison... As soon as I fell pregnant, my husband took on the majority share. He does the washing up every single day, and he will cook if needed when he gets home from work because he can see how knackered I am at 30 weeks looking after our toddler or working. Some days, I don't do anything, other days I have dinner ready and I've done two loads of washing. It depends how I'm feeling, but, he's never commented in a shirty way. That's not ok.

It sounds like your partner is expecting a lot from you right now, make sure you're looking after yourself ❤️

I would be fuming. I am doing absolutely nothing at home at the moment bar some cooking and putting clothes in the washing machine and turning it on- he then puts them out to dry. Things are messy, but clean and we’re getting by. Pregnancy is a time where we should be taken care of! 🥹

My partner works from home so he finds it easier to find time to clean. I’m 33 weeks now and I’m working up until my due date, but I work in academia and it’s quite flexible. I won’t have to be in from 38 weeks onwards as that’s my last lecture of the semester.

Plus, this is the second time I’ve seen someone say they’re ironing on here! We don’t iron a thing (unless partner needs a suit) and leaning over an ironing board with a hot iron while pregnant sounds like hell!! 😳

I don’t know how you’re managing all the above. Sending hugs! ❤️ xx

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