Childminder or nursery?

My baby will be 13 months when I go ham to work. I had initially found a nursery for her. But then I recently found out about childminder now I am torn. I like how childminders pay more attention but my baby seems very social so not sure if I’m restricting her? The childminder I’m considering has 5 kids different ages from 13 months to 3 years. But it’s cheaper and closer to home. What are some pros and cons?

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I did so much research on this and I truly don’t think there’s a right or wrong! We decided to go with a nursery setting in the end for the following reasons

- structured hours and days
- group setting in class with other kids her age rather than small group of varied ages
- huge variety of activities; crafting, music classes, educational days around culture around the world (Diwali, Chinese new year etc) I love this about nursery!!!!

Some pros and cons for childminders
PROS
- home from home setting, likely more individualised care
- more opportunities for trips out (a lot of childminders go to playgroups, soft play, parks etc) but I also considered this to be a con because I don’t fully trust anyone to take my child out on their own especially with other kids to watch

CONS
- childminders can really vary. You can either get an amazing childminder, or not so much and you’ll never really know what’s going on, who is coming to the house, is car seat safety being 100% maintained

Oh and final big thing to consider; a childminder can take holiday any time in the year, plus if they become sick you have no childcare for that day or week

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Advice please

I am in a longterm relationship with a drug addict, he takes K daily to help his anxiety.. apparently.. he doesn’t go over the top and get absolutely out of it, but it is a worry. He owes me £6000, he is in major debt.
We have a 2 year old together and I have been thinking of leaving for a long time, i don’t know why i can’t make the move. The house is in my name, we will not be homeless because he would leave.
I just always hope he would quit, but I just don’t see it happening.
I also worry that his dad will want to see him and be doing drugs or drinking, i know we can have someone there to watch him but i don’t trust his family to watch him as they would let him get away with it 😔
I feel so stuck.

Do kids learn more in nursery or childminders ? Debating where to put my child 😭

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Would you allow you child to gift their toys to their best friends?

I haven’t yet had this happen yet but our daughter is a very caring and thoughtful little human and may decide to do this eventually. And I’ve heard of this happening with other children. If your child gave away a toy and then wanted it back(after a long amount of time) how would handle it.
A) Would you get them a new one that looks the same.
B) Explain that when we give people gifts we don’t take them back because that’s rude.
C) Go to the parents and get it back.

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