So frustrated with my partner

My boyfriend is a part of a bike club which is a hobby for him. I’m okay with that, but it’s honestly going a little too far. They have to go to other people’s bike nights and their own. He has been gone on Monday (not sure when he came home bc I found him face down on the floor drunk), yesterday, he has his own bike night and came home at midnight, and now (I’m on east coast time) is out with them and when I asked when he will be home, he ignored that.

I’m work from home and unfortunately am the breadwinner which causes extra stress for me. My 15 month old stays home with me and I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant. I’m TIRED and honestly ready to leave the relationship. He is a good father, but that’s not enough. I’m just tired of being accommodating.

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If he was a “good father”, you wouldn’t be here saying this. 🤨 because he would be prioritizing you and his family naturally.

So not here to judge by any means, but my father was your boyfriend and my mom was you when I was a kid. My mom spent all of her time working and taking care of 4 kids while he was out with his biker buddies getting drunk and doing god knows what else (ended up being drugs & other women) several weeknights and every weekend. Trust your gut feelings on this one! You know your relationship best, but your feelings are valid. That is a hard lifestyle to maintain as a parent and a lot of pressure on you trying to hold it all together. Don’t forget to put yourself and your babies first 🤍

Nah on a good week my son’s dad gets to go to two bike meets in one week, maybe one group ride. But nah he wouldn’t be out 3 nights out of the week while I was 28 weeks pregnant. Hell I don’t even really enjoy seeing him ride at all while I’m pregnant.

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Advice please

I am in a longterm relationship with a drug addict, he takes K daily to help his anxiety.. apparently.. he doesn’t go over the top and get absolutely out of it, but it is a worry. He owes me £6000, he is in major debt.
We have a 2 year old together and I have been thinking of leaving for a long time, i don’t know why i can’t make the move. The house is in my name, we will not be homeless because he would leave.
I just always hope he would quit, but I just don’t see it happening.
I also worry that his dad will want to see him and be doing drugs or drinking, i know we can have someone there to watch him but i don’t trust his family to watch him as they would let him get away with it 😔
I feel so stuck.

Do kids learn more in nursery or childminders ? Debating where to put my child 😭

Help pleaseee from your experience

Is it cheating?

Husband hasn't been able to have sex with me or cuddle in almost a year. No hello/goodbye kiss. Basically no contact order ig. Today I find hes been following and frequently visiting a sexual FB page and its purely sex content. There were other searches as well. Atp we are married (2 years and 4 years together) we have two kids 3 and 2. He claimed in the past he was ashamed of jerking off and would stop and blah blah.

Would you allow you child to gift their toys to their best friends?

I haven’t yet had this happen yet but our daughter is a very caring and thoughtful little human and may decide to do this eventually. And I’ve heard of this happening with other children. If your child gave away a toy and then wanted it back(after a long amount of time) how would handle it.
A) Would you get them a new one that looks the same.
B) Explain that when we give people gifts we don’t take them back because that’s rude.
C) Go to the parents and get it back.

Once your child was potty trained did they regress back to having accidents?

Just wanting to find out how common this is....

What would yall do?

So a few days ago, I told my husband that we needed to separate because him not very participating in house chores him not giving you know the kids and my attention when he gets home. He’s always on his phone and him yelling at the kids all the time. He is now changing for the most part but he has done this before. We were going to do IVF I have all the medications. Should I keep them or just get rid of them ? I’m not sure what to do