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Mommas please help me my 4 year old is having behavioural problems she’s being tested for adhd and autism but it’s not till July … she is finding it hard to follow rules or basic rules . She gets very overstimulated very fast now I tend to gentle parent because I believe understanding the boundaries and understanding how hard it is to be overwhelmed is important but it’s getting very tiring 😩….. she’s throwing stuff she’s not listening she’s destroying her room kicks doors she keeps putting stuff all over her walls etc it’s a non stop struggle I’ve tried being very stern with her making her clean up her mess nothing works the doctors are pushing more to adhd but I have adhd I also kicked doors as a little one but I was NOT this bad 😭… I need advice

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My daughter went through the same thing for many years until almost 7 years old they resorted to stimulants. Didn’t have luck with counseling/behavioral therapy. Teacher was noticing she wasn’t focusing etc. She’s better now about not kicking walls and acting out, but she still screams when upset. You’re a few years away from her getting medicine if you go that route but have they recommended behavioral therapy? Probably best place to start. Hopefully they can give you some resources. Hang in there 💕 I understand completely I was at a total loss. I told the doctors we have to do something we can’t handle this anymore 🙌🏻

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Ok, so to be fair, my 4yo is also ND, but I’m here to say that it’s not just ND 4yo’s suddenly acting this way. There’s was just a FB post in my 10/21 mom group yesterday, the mom wanted to know if it was just her child or what was going on, I swear that feed would’ve made you feel so much better, even though it was one horror story after another & not all their kids are ND. I just want you to remember that gentle parenting leaves no room for pushing your own boundaries, I start w/my kids when they start pulling hair around 4m, they get put down, when they start hitting around 13m-2yo, I stop playing say “I don’t have to play w/people who are mean to me”, same when they cheat at games etc. I start early teaching them their room is their safe space, they learn to go to their bed during tantrums & even meltdowns, bc it’s safer for them, not mean to others & a calm place to practice coping w/big feelings. I sometimes have to recommend them go to their room, but usually they go on their

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