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Step Mamas 🇺🇸

Need Advice

My husband and I have been together 6 years and he has 50/50 custody of his 3 kids 7,9, and 11. His oldest has always had a seemingly strained relationship with her mom. For years we were told she didn’t want to be over there and she felt like her mom didn’t love her as much as her new husband and new half siblings. We put her in therapy which has helped and their relationship has gotten better….however her mom has always had an issue with me. Recently she has started telling lies to SD about me, ones that one day made her not want to come back to our house. She ended up coming back and we were able to tell her the truth and told her to always give us the benefit of the doubt. She seemed to understand and was sorry she had let it get in the way of her coming back. But the lies and manipulation have continued, each time I am told a new lie I am able to prove it is a lie and SD knows it is. However she has still been asking to go to her mom’s on her dad’s time more frequently and it honestly hurts that even though she knows her mom lies to her she would choose to be there instead of spending time with her dad who she has an amazing relationship with. We don’t want to tell her no and end up being the bad guy if it’s really what she wants but it hurts both my husband and I that she would want that. Any advice?