How do you feel about this, and could you please explain?

Do you view having children as a positive or negative aspect of your life? Asset or liability?

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If you view them as a liability what's the point of having them?

I think this is a jab at men who expect their wives to do all the home and childcare while they work, but don't share their income - as in the wife has to ask for money even if it's for the kids, and it's always "his money" but not "their money."

It could be taken in a darker way I suppose, like that women shouldn't be working at all but men should be taking care of them. But I don't think that's the intent. I think it's a pointed comment that if men are working and expecting wives to give birth and provide childcare and sacrifice their career, then they shouldn't shame them for also needing money and autonomy.

i don’t like the connotation that asset/liability has but yes technically they’re both? they bring me joy, i love having them around, love watching them grow and learn, etc, but also i am literally responsible for them and there are many things i can’t do because of them. overall i view my child as a positive aspect of my life.

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But im not finished.

You ever been so horny you just want to get off multiple times break a sweat and just get f***ed but then your spouce cums too quick and then the baby starts crying so you just stay pent up? Me too.

Ive had men tell me to "tell them what I want" okay well I told you not to c*m yet and then you c*me quicker. Wtf.

Conceiving after birth (post infertility)

Hi, I’m just looking for some advice, I’m only 20 weeks pregnant atm with my first but we’ve had so many issues conceiving in the first place, it’s taken 6 constant years of trying with not even one positive test until this baby! (No losses thank god)

After a few years of trying with no success we did find out I have an under active thyroid and PCOS and got diagnosed as infertile but now I can’t be happier!

Everything said I know I haven’t gone through the birth yet and I do want to give my body the time to heal but honestly we’ve always wanted a big family and there’s so much anxiety about being able to conceive again.

I know after you give birth you’re most fertile which is great but I just don’t know how long that lasts. I obviously don’t want to get pregnant 6 weeks after I’ve given birth but if that’s the only choice so it doesn’t take 6 years again I would do it :/

Is this a faint line?

I took a test and within 1 minute it showed this. As I wasn’t sure I ended up taking another test 30 minutes later and it was negative. What do you guys think?