How would you feel towards them???
If you had been arranging a surprise party for over a year, meaning these people had a year in advance to plan time off or literally anything else, only for them to cancel one by one the same day you confirmed they’re available, how would you feel towards them?! Two are saying they used the time off for various family members emergencies. One doesnt know if they can, because heaven forbid they actually write one weekend off for a friend of a lifetime, over his girlfriend of three years. Another is apparently changing jobs and can’t take time off(yeah because you definitely cant ask when starting a job for time off🙄(I’ve personally done this and never had an issue)). And his very best friend? Apparently having heart issues out of no where at 28 years old, and what would you know, the only day they can do his echo is literally his best friends birthday… *(Keep in mind, we have a child who has had OHS ourselves. We aren’t strangers to heart issues). Would you want to find out you possibly have a heart issue on your best friends bday out of any day of the year? Not only that but its a milestone. He turns 30. Most of them do this year too. It was supposed to be one last weekend hurrah but instead they all decided to flake at literally the last possible minute. I genuinely hate these guys. Ive known them since HS. I figured they would at least show up. Nope. I tried. I did. I tried… Because of them all the plans are ruined.
Is he in the wrong here or am I?
My partner of 4 years is not the father of my 3 children I have to my ex husband, my ex and I had a bad break up, things took a sudden nasty turn after a long rime together, dv, courts injunction but things u turned and he has a timetable with the kids now. He sees them every other weekend for just the day and some half terms but not too much really. He pays maintenance and he has for 4 years even when he couldnt see them. He called n said his changing jobs and he needs to pay 250 less this month and then for the next few weeks he will pay weekly instead of monthly and add some extra on so the 250 less will get paid back. My partner said if he cant pay he cant have them.. if he cant afford to pay this week properly he cant afford to havr the kids next week in half term. He asked for a Monday til friday with them, he wants to take them the cinema and trampoline park and to see family. I said child maintenance and his quality time with the kids are two seperate things just as what happened between me and him is seperate to how he is a father am I wrong ? Is he wrong ? What would you do ?