Together or Separate 1st birthday

If you can do one, then do one! You don’t have to love it necessarily but if you think it will ease tensions and you can enjoy your kiddos birthday together then do so for the future birthdays! If you can’t do that, then do two xx

If you can manage a day together in a happy civil manner, do it together. If theres a risk of an negative vibe, dont!

Me and my ex seperated 1.5 months before my 1st kids 2nd bday and it was frosty, spent the day together and now I wish we didnt x

I would do one. It’s easier,cheaper more family oriented and better for the baby. A lot of 1 year olds already get tired and worked up with the loudness especially singing happy birthday so I would make it a one time thing if you all both could come together to do! I hope it goes well whatever you all think is best for yourselves and baby!

Better for the baby . If you don’t try to do it now , it’ll never get easier . The baby deserves both parents for celebrations . Teach them even though we aren’t together anymore , you can still come together when it’s important. Coming from someone whose parents can’t be in the same room , even same state . It hurts them in the long wrong . Try your best to do one . For them and if you wanna have your own celebration on another day there’s nothing wrong with spoiling them