Who does the nighttime wake ups?

And if your partner doesnt help - are you okay with that?

My husband has done every wake up with both babies because he was up anyway playing his game- even without the game, it’s still all him. ( he got 4 months off from MY sacrifice- the LEAST he can do lol)

I typically do the wake ups because it seems when dad handles them the “fall back asleeps” take was longer 😅

I’ve done all wake ups with my girl since she was born, I’ve asked for help a handful of times when we were deep into regressions. I breastfed and still do and don’t see a point in dad waking up too. I’d much rather let him sleep at night and claim a lay in in the morning if I need one.

I do the majority of it my husband will if I'm so tired I don't hear her but that's pretty much it

My husband wakes up more easily than me and we always shared the load. When our son is really sick we do shifts but because of breastfeeding for more than two years and our son wanting me for bedtime I would say I did more of the nights :) maybe 70/30. I fed sidelying tho so often didn’t have to get up and I cosleep with our son and he sleeps separately so it’s often easier to settle our son before he even hears it. It’s what worked for us to get the most sleep as a family but I would probably leave him if he didn’t share the load! Doesnt have to be 50/50, I don’t think that’s realistic depending on the feeding and sleep situation but not helping at all? Would be a deal breaker for me.

I have twins and my husband was primarily doing night feeds up until recently. I would only wake up to pump, he would feed, and still go to work in the morning. It’s definitely possible. Partner laziness SHOULD NOT BE NORMALIZED!!!

Probably 60% him and 40% me now that they are old enough to not need nursed back to sleep

Why is there not a 50/50 option?
We alternate nights.

I’m the one that actually hears the boys. If we were burgled well we’d all be done for😅😂we both work but he works longer and has to get up earlier. Plus he’s always half asleep or ratty if he had to wake up. Though give him his due if one of the boys creates so much noise he will help ☺️

My husband genuinely doesn’t hear her. Which I get isn’t necessarily his fault. But still annoys the hell out of me. I breastfeed so in the early days it made sense to be 100% me, but she doesn’t really feed at night anymore so it could be my husband too. He also has this perception that she hates him and wont settle for him so why should he bother.