Spouse going to be away for work for half the week for most of this month maybe more .. any tips for me? Details below

So my husband is going to be working away from home and staying in a hotel for about half the week every week this month and possibly longer. This is entirely new to us. My son is 3 and has never experienced his dad being gone for that long. I don’t think he will be entirely devastated honestly because I’m the preferred parent but I still expect some challenges. Some things to consider: I do have some family in the area, I don’t drive and the grocery store in walking distance is expensive lol. So we plan on making sure I have a good grocery stock and can ask for help if I need it I guess for during the day .. but any other tips? I can’t shake the feeling that I’m missing something I should be preparing to make it easier in advance ..

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You'll be fine ❤️ make sure when hubby comes home, the next day you get a few hours to yourself. Important to avoid burnout.

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I actually find it a bit easier the weeks my husband is away for work, even though he is a 50/50 parent and does all the cooking 🤦‍♀️

It just means I have less washing and cleaning to do. We prep all my meals for when hes away so they can be quicky done in the microwave and my daughter gets dinner at nursery so its just a snack plate when shes gone. Bath then bed.

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The only things you need to worry about are the things that he does for childcare. If he always does a certain thing, then makes plans for those things.

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