please help I don't know what to do

My 12 yo son has had two girl best friends (we'll call them A and V) since they were babies, basically. We've become friends with their mothers over the years, and we let them have sleepovers at each other's houses quite often. They go to the same school, my son and A, and recently my son started coming home from school very down and irritable. I tried to find out what was wrong, and yesterday he finally confessed that for the past few weeks his classmates had been avoiding him, talking about him behind his back, and yesterday a classmate asked him if it was true that he had masturbated in front of A and V at a sleepover and had touched A while she was sleeping.

I know how this sounds, I was so fucking worried and I didn't know what to do. I asked him if it was true and he completely denied it, crying. I'm a psychologist and I always know when my son is lying, and I believed him.
I spoke with V's mother (who doesn't go to the same school) so she could ask V about it, and after talking to her, she called me to say that V had denied anything like that had happened. She seemed horrified and said that she was even the one who slept in the middle of the three of them and nothing happened. They just watched a movie and went to sleep.
After that, I called A's mother and told her the whole situation, to which she replied, "It's just kids being kids." (Are you fucking kidding?!) She knows her daughter lied, turning all the children against mine, and she didn't apologize or anything. I'm devastated. My son is still being bullied, and V isn't even at the same school to defend him or correct what happened. I don't understand A's mother's reaction, and I don't know what to do anymore.

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For the record: they were in my house that day, I offered the girls to sleep together in my room but they both assured me they weren't uncomfortable sleeping all together. They all know each other since babies so I didn't think anything like this could happen. I'm trying to understand why would A would lie like that, and I just can't.

You should first contact the school and the school counselor and initiate a bullying investigation. Request interviews with the students and documentation of everything.

And honestly, you should contact a lawyer and look into defamation. Have your lawyer send a letter to them that says they must correct the rumor in paper or you will seek legal against them. Make sure and document everything and have the other mom and her daughter write in paper that nothing happened.

But this is really why we should never do sleepovers. Especially with coed sleepovers over like the age of 8. You can’t trust anyone.

How do we know she is lying about it? I say this very gently but we should believe girls and victims . Just because she doesn’t want to talk to a grownup about it, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. You do not know just by looking at your kid if he is lying. That’s a massive red flag in my book.

Maybe she did make it up. But much more often than not, that is not the case.

I would take your son to therapy and possibly reach out to the kids mom again. Ask to sit down and talk about why she would say this. Maybe have the school counselor do it? Idk man.

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