Intimacy

Has anyone else struggled being intimate with their partner since giving birth?
Just feel like my mental load takes over and by the time the day is over and the boys are in bed, im ready to go to sleep cause all i can think about is the never ending list of things to be done:/

Feel like its really starting to affect our relationship because i can feel him getting annoyed and frustrated which i can understand cause hes feeling unwanted, but tbh im just not even thinking about it

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My baby is 3months and we only been intimate once’s. I’m to stressed and overwhelmed 24/7 sex isn’t even a thought.

I’m dealing with this and I’m 35weeks pregnant. We have sex maybe once a month. I want to do it, I just can’t seem to get it up lol if that makes sense

Girl same here!! My daughter is 8 months old and I’ve only been intimate with my partner a few times since giving birth and even those times were really hard for me. I’m constantly in mom mode and thinking of everything that needs to be done! Please don’t feel guilty. If your partner is really committed, they will understand that your mental and physical changed completely since giving birth and be willing to wait until you’re ready and comfortable. You are doing great mom🩷!! I definitely associate with it not even being a thought most of the time because we have a million other things going on! We’re literally our kids PRIMARY caregivers. It’s so freaking normal to feel this way. Your partner’s feelings are valid of course. I suggest maybe carving out a time each week to be intimate with each other like even if it isn’t intercourse. Catch a movie, go to dinner, ho for a walk, something like that. Just to let them know that you still love and care for them and understand their feelings

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