How to not react? / “Grey rocking”?
TO PREFACE YALL I AM WORKING INCREDIBLY HARD ON GETTING OUT OF THIS SITUATION BUT AS YOU KNOW IT TAKES TIME GETTING THINGS TOGETHER TO LEAVE WITH A BABY. NO I DO NOT HAVE ANYWHERE ELSE TO GO AND AM NOT ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR RESOURCES.
as someone that’s passionate, LATINA, very opinionated HOW DO I STFU. In a situation right now where he is verbally and emotionally abusive. It’s gotten worse. wasn’t always like this. “Shut the fuck up” “Get the fuck out” “Bitch” “Cunt”. girl I’ve heard it all. some days it hits harder and I do run away and cry ..
but i’m at the point where it doesn’t even hurt me or surprise me the things that MF says. so as someone that’s emotional, out spoken, stubborn.. how do i stop reacting!!?! grey rock i think they call it. i know i know “just say Ok” “just walk away”. sometimes after a hard day or week FUCK IT IS SOO HARD TO NOT STICK IT TO THEM YK? like fuck you. trust me i’m not one to be walked on or take it im tired of arguing though. tired of telling him who the fuck he’s talking to. anyways for my own peace of mind.. how?
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The only way I have been able to keep myself from reacting is by removing the trigger.
I know that wasn’t the answer you’re looking for.
If you figure out a way to be able to live with an abusive man AND keep your sanity please let the rest of us know.
No one has been able to crack that code
If you can’t remove him just yet, then avoid him if you sense a bad work day or a minor inconvenience, take the kids for a walk ask if he wants to come, take them to the park or library, perhaps find an outlet for yourself that helps when you have all these feelings
Can I ask a question out of genuine curiosity and not judgment? How are you actively working on getting out of the situation but you’re not looking for resources, which I presume could help get you out of the situation?
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