Is 3 in my 40's crazy?

I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old- both full of beans boys. Im 44. We are considering a 3rd as this was our original plan and we love being parents but I just dont know if Ive got the energy! We did IVF and still have 2 embryos, so it would mean planning another embryo transfer. I am young for my age but we have no support. Its just me and my husband and he has adhd so is quite a handful himself. I really want another baby but my head says its not logical. But sometimes I wonder if we're overthinking it and are worrying about what it looks like to others. Im really torn.

Is anyone else in the same boat? Am I being selfish?

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Im 47, blessed with 3 babies and would have had so many more if i could have afforded it. Now im a GIGI to 3 amazing boys!! I say if you have the energy and the room DO IT!!! WHO CARES what others think!!! If you lived in Texas id be your family!!! I love all the babies/kids! Lol girl, you do YOU and if another makes your heart smile.. Then DO IT!!!!!

I had my 4th (6th but two are adults and on their own I restarted life in my 30s 🤣) in January at 45! ❤️🫂🎉

I have an 18 and 9 yr old got a new partner and finally married last year at 40 and restarted my life I have a 1 yr and pregnant again to what was twins but sadly lost 1. But my husband is set that he wants 3 of his own so I will be getting pregnant again after this baby and be further into my 40s. He is mid 30s. I love having babies I just hate the pregnancies as I really suffer. Im now 12 weeks and just got to get to 37 weeks and they will deliver me again as I also have health issues outside of pregnancy. And this baby potentially has a problem with a little of its bowel not gone into its stomach.

I have a 17yr old, 5yr old, 3yr old and 2yr old...I'm 42 so who's the crazy one 🤣😂

I say if you want to do and have the energy for it, go for it! I love my babies but we have no help and I am running on fumes, a hope, wish and prayer most days 🤣. I have made it perfectly clear to that man, I AM NOT HAVING ANYMORE KIDS!

Thanks for sharing. So do you have help? How do you cope with your baby when youre tired? I dont know what Id do with 2 toddlers if i got pregnant again. I usually get very low blood pressure when pregnant so how would i cope. I wonder if I just crave that peak experience again.

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I got 3 seperate very faint lines on tests this morning but my anxiety got the better of me and I’ve done 2 more tests this afternoon which there was no faint line?

Has anyone had this and gone on to get stronger positives despite negatives after?

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