Past my due date and frustrated
I know I'm still well within a normal due 'period' I guess as I'm only 40+3, but man I'm so frustrated.
I've hated being pregnant this time round. (Already have a nearly 3 yo)
I thought I had it bad last time but everything has been 10x worse. I've had every symptom under the sun, I've had every illness on top of that from my toddler, plus still having to run after him all day every day. I'm so done with it, I just want my body back and to feel even semi-normal again.
(Please don't get me wrong, I'm also incredibly grateful to be pregnant again and we're very lucky, I just need a space to get these negative feelings out too)
I feel like ever since I've been around 39weeks pregnant I've hit a wall, I can't cope anymore. I'm now 3 days past my due date and I honestly don't know how to keep going?? Baby feels like she's pushing down on my cervix all the time, the lightning crotch is horrendous, I've lost mucus plug, I've had a bloody show, I've had diarrhoea, back pains etc, all these things that you'd assume mean labour is close but nope, nothing. She's still chilling in there, her bum is sitting so high its touching my boobs, like she's not dropped AT ALL. I didn't drop with my first so I do take everything with a grain of salt but still, I just want something to happen!! I'm tired, I'm grumpy, I'm in SO MUCH pain 🥲 and everyone keeps asking me if baby has arrived yet, I've just stopped answering messages because I promise once this baby is out of me I'll be singing from the rooftops! You don't need to keep asking!! 😭😭😭
Sorry this turned into such a vent but I'm so tired you've no idea, I just want to explode I'm so frustrated, and I know feeling this way isn't good for getting oxytocin flowing in preparation for labour but I can't help it, I'm just so dome feeling like crap 😔
NON influencer first time mum advice
Hey lovies, I just wanted to write this post as when I was pregnant I used to love reading about other mums experiences and their advice... So as a first time mum to a now 5 month old, let me tell you...
BEFORE BIRTH -
YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE READY!! My house was nowhere near the state I wanted it in, I was frantic about everything. I'd honestly say prioritise making sure the baby has a safe space to sleep, free from mould, and a safe temperature (we bought an air purifier and a fan for safe measure)
My baby just chills out watching me clean or DIY now, so still 5 months on I am able to get the house sorted.
I wouldn't stress too much about all the exercises people advise you do either, this late in the pregnancy it's just nice to get through the day 🤣
BIRTH:
Ignore EVERYONE's horror stories that they for some reason feel compelled to tell you - every birth is different.
My experience with labour was that it hurt, but when it starts REALLY hurting you're near the end!! If you want extreme honesty it just felt like I had a huge 💩 trapped!!
AFTER BIRTH
I bought so many useless gadgets cos instagram told me to, I wouldn't personally bother with nappy bins, cold water sterilisers or any of that stuff, the only extras (outside of steriliser etc) I'd recommend is:
- Tomme Tippee cooling flask (LIFE SAVER!!!!)
- A temp egg
- Star projector to keep them occupied when they refuse to sleep
The health visitors and midwives will terrify you, I got to the point where I was using spirit levels to make sure my baby was lying completely flat, I was going OUT of my mind making my babies formula fresh too (pre tommee tippee cooling flask) I was terrified if I did one thing wrong it would cost me my babies life, what I'd advise is...
Listen to the health visitors, listen to the midwives but treat what they're telling you as advice, not the law. You know your baby better than you think, you will know what's best for them and your sanity.
Anyways, this was really long but it you have any questions let me know :)
and good luck mamas, you're stronger than you know. Motherhood really is a beautiful thing and it's SO FUN! xxx
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