Do you think you'll have more children?

Baby rent pending.
Currently in the ER with my 6 year old and was talking to the registrar lady. Shes telling me how I need to give my daughter a sibling since she's my only child. This woman lost her son when he was 21, so I'm sure it came from a good place.
It was always the plan to have more children, but I also accepted that it may not be in the cards for me. My partner is 6 years older than me with children already. I'll be 31 this summer, and I'm genuinely not sure if more children will be in the future. In a perfect world, I'd get my 3, but I think I have also come to terms that I may not have more.
But there's the fear of my next pregnancy having the same complications that my last one did because you don't just forget your loss and it creates a level of anxiety you didn't have before. Let's normalize not telling people to have more kids though lol.

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HAHAHHA BABY RENT PENDING yeh if a baby starts paying rent maybe I’d have a sibling for my child

Yup! Agree with you that we should normalize not telling people to have kids - or to even have more kids. Losing a child is heartbreaking…which shouldn’t turn into pressure or fear based expectations for anyone. Grief shouldn’t dictate someone else’s path to parenthood

I would say something insane sounding like my uterus fell out or something.

It’s tough, I always wanted two children, and I would LOVE to experience pregnancy and labor all over again (I have a 13 month old) but I had very little support postpartum and my pp experience was pretty bad. If my partner was supportive and an active parent, then I might consider it. But at this point I’m terrified of the idea of having two little ones that I have to care for all on my own. I’m one and done until I have a husband who proves to be worth a damn …

Like talking about someone’s body, it’s just a personal topic that shouldn’t be mentioned unless the other person brings it up first! I don’t judge anyone for how many or few children they have.
We personally hope for a large family though, so won’t be done for a long time 😂

Ah, the lost art of minding your own damn business 🙄🙄
Not entirely sure why people who aren't volunteering to provide financial, physical and emotional support seems to feel they can give people their opinions on what they do with their uteruses 🤔

I'm one and done and if anyone wants to say anything to me about it, I shall be happy to tell them all about themselves 🥊

Absolutely not.

I'm currently pregnant with baby two and three. I definitely won't have more kids after this lol. I also completely understand parents who are one and done. This pregnancy was so much harder than my first. If this was my first pregnancy, I definitely wouldn't have gotten pregnant again lol. Also, kids are so expensive and some days are just so hard (especially that first-year for me).

For me no. I’m pregnant with baby 2 and I know we’re done! No more!

in our community

Nervous

So my clear blue 6 day early test (taken when 2 days late) was somewhat dark.

I’m now 4 days past due period.

But my strip test (in comments) is quite light…. Am I right to be concerned? Or am I just worrying myself over nothing?

Negative?

I’m getting delusional please help lol. 9 dpo

dye stealer?

is this a strong test line i heard dye stealer ? im hoping so as its my 8th pregnancy as sadly lost 7 so paranoid

8 dpo testing negative

I am 8dpo negative tests
Has anyone had fully negative tests at 8 dpo and still ended up getting a positive?
I’m actually losing all hope and becoming miserable, I just want to have another baby

help!

do you guys see a VERY faint line or is just me?
I got an extremely faint test on 2 of these tests but when I do digital I get negative.
what do you guys think!!

Question…

If you could live your life again with the same knowledge you have now, would you choose to have children?

Take out of the equation who your children are.

I had such a blessed life before children. And I feel like overall, I’m definitely a more stressed, angry and sad person than I was before. If I knew what I knew now, I don’t think I would do it. I know that sounds really harsh but I think the people who decide not to have kids are the ones who have really done their research and had proper hands on experience dealing with kids for extended periods of time.

I think you’d be lying if you didn’t have this thought before, even just got a fleeting second of your life….