Do you think you'll have more children?

Baby rent pending.
Currently in the ER with my 6 year old and was talking to the registrar lady. Shes telling me how I need to give my daughter a sibling since she's my only child. This woman lost her son when he was 21, so I'm sure it came from a good place.
It was always the plan to have more children, but I also accepted that it may not be in the cards for me. My partner is 6 years older than me with children already. I'll be 31 this summer, and I'm genuinely not sure if more children will be in the future. In a perfect world, I'd get my 3, but I think I have also come to terms that I may not have more.
But there's the fear of my next pregnancy having the same complications that my last one did because you don't just forget your loss and it creates a level of anxiety you didn't have before. Let's normalize not telling people to have more kids though lol.

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baby rant* lol why can't we edit on poll posts

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HAHAHHA BABY RENT PENDING yeh if a baby starts paying rent maybe I’d have a sibling for my child

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Yup! Agree with you that we should normalize not telling people to have kids - or to even have more kids. Losing a child is heartbreaking…which shouldn’t turn into pressure or fear based expectations for anyone. Grief shouldn’t dictate someone else’s path to parenthood

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