Is porn cheating?
My partner hasn’t touched me in 2 years ,our baby is 17 months. I’ve always wanted I tried to initiate and was always shut down, he lost a lot of weight and had been insecure he blamed that. Tonight looking through photos he took of our family on a day out on his phone I accidentally deleted one so went to his recently deleted photos only to find a bunch of pictures of women naked or near enough so. So I checked his recent x searched to find porn. Now I might have felt differently if he had been sexual towards me in any way recently but the fact I’ve waited 2 years for him thinking he was having issues to find out nah he just doesn’t want me in extremely hurt
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If it’s not a boundary you put in place to begin with or something that you guys have discussed, I wouldn’t consider it cheating. BUT and that’s a big but, I would not be ok with this situation if my partner didn’t touch me for two years. Porn doesn’t bother me if it doesn’t affect my relationship or our sexual relationship. Obviously in this situation it probably has. I’m so sorry, this must be really hurtful.
I consider porn cheating if you are married (made vows) or just generally agreed to be exclusive and not open or poly. Porn is consumption of and pleasuring oneself with another person’s body outside of your marriage or agreement.
It’s cheating to me, if you want to jerk off to other people go do it on your own. I have no desire to get off looking at other men, if I did I’d be single and fooling around. I find it very odd how normalized stuff like porn is when it’s rooted in violence and cruelty and when it’s been scientifically proven to be damaging ESPECIALLY to the male brain. I find it all gross.
It’s not cheating in my marriage, although my husband and I don’t watch porn anyways, but this would be a problem for me either way, clearly he’s struggling in some way with intimacy and the porn is likely a big factor. I’m sorry you’re going through this
Can only change the way things are between yours if you have a talk about your sex life. He shouldn't have to hide these things from you, if he is then he knows it's not okay with you. It's better for him to admit and tell you about what he's been doing.
The damn prick has been satisfying himself for this long without even giving you attention intimately.
Not to mention the porn is very likely changing his expectations or desires sexually, which now is another burden you have to manage together as well.
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