Grandparents
Me and my husband regularly argue around the grandparents involvement in our daughters life. I have never and would never stop anyone from seeing her. But my parents regularly see our daughter most weekends and my mum does have her on a Thursday so i can go to work. His parents do see us most weekends but probably less.
His mum is unable to do anything until late morning early afternoon but due to her still napping thats usually around 2. His dad keeps working weekends and there have been occasions where we have seen if they are free and hes said hes fixing something at his parents. My husband's sister seems to only show up when it suits her. If she has a better offer she isnt there. She did not attend out baby shower, our daughters first birthday because she choose a better option(in my opion). Bottom line I feel like my daughter is not a priority in their life. I will never force someone to have a relationship with my daughter and I just feel like she is not a priority therefore I do not trust them to look after her like I have my parents. Which for me that took and lot to leave her with my mum and I still have not left her overnight. I feel like my husband then makes it a competition because he will say my parents have seen our daughter more than his which entitles them to see her soon. I just feel like everything is a competition and at the end of this is a child. Am I being silly? Or is this justified? Anyone had any experiences like this?
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I know exactly how you are feeling, my mum sees my son multiple times a week a lucky if his parents even text me weekly.
My husband works away 3 weeks on 3weeks off so I thought his parents would be over seeing my wee boy all the time! There was an incident when he was newborn and we’ve not been the same since but they also haven’t done anything to regain my trust!!
He will only stay overnight with them when my husband is home and he does make comments about how my mum spends more time with us. He doesn’t have a lot to say when I tell him they don’t even message me asking how their only grandchild!
I’ve made it clear that I am not chasing people to know my child and it’s them who are missing out on him cause he is an incredible wee guy who is loved beyond measure!!
Hope you’re doing ok, if you need a chat just send me a message 🩵. Xoxo
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