Needing advice
My husband has told me he hasn't been happy in awhile and recommended time apart. Im a SAHM, Its only been 2 days and it's been hard. Especially because instead of letting him sleep at the shop, I told him I would find somewhere to go and did for now. Splitting the kids up and getting out of routine.. Well anyway, im asking for advice because I want to give him his space and I know we are gonna still talk in passing and whatnot, but he won't stop messaging me. Kinda acting like things are normal still. Today he asked me if im mad at him..I replied I'm not, im confused how much I should talk to you to give you space and he said "you can still talk to me." Feel like i may he getting false hope and so I don't want him to message me. Also yet I obviously dont want him to stop either.
Any advice welcome!
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I would definitely have a conversation about what this “space” means to him. And what he’s looking for out of it or to accomplish for himself.
Does he genuinely just not want to be around you in person but still want you to act like… nothings wrong?
Or does he want ACTUAL space to work on himself?
Or whatever else he’s decided that you’re most likely unaware of or he didn’t take the time to explain to you if this is how you’re feeling about it
Did he explain why he “hasn’t been happy” in awhile?
Sorry you’re going through this hun 💕
I don't think he doesn't wanna be around me in person necessarily. He's also normal in person. It was our daughter's 1st birthday yesterday so we had dinner together and everything felt pretty normal and in passing. He's always asking how it's going, what im doing, today asked how I am.
I am gonna have to ask cause I dont know if that's how he sees space but that's what I was thinking he meant (work on himself).
Yeah he hasn't explained much and he gets upset if I try to understand better. It was basically just, 'we need time apart, I'll sleep at the shop' and I wanting to do what I can for him not to leave I said 'ok but you don't need to sleep there I'll figure something out'.
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