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Cheating husband

Just found out my husband been having an affair, I'm done.
How do you navigate being a single parent with a 8 week old baby?

What are my next steps?

Hi ladies. I need advice on my relationship and partnership. My husband is self employed. I left work early this year as life became too hard as his schedule as below never changed it’s been like this. His schedule

8.30am wake up and responds to emails and makes work calls

9.30 he gets ready to leave the house for work. I don’t make him any breakfast on principle as I’m overwhelmed with kids and home and he gets bugged by this because he feels the bare minimum I can do for him as a hard working man is to make sure he’s fed.

All day. No contact from him unless he needs something from me. No calls if kids are unwell. No calls if I’ve said I’m not feeling great today. Nothing. But I’ll get back to back calls from him if he wants to know something with urgency.

After school I pick up the kids, and we’re usually home bound for the rest of the evening.

He pulls up to the drive around 6pm most days. Sits in his car doing more admin and work calls.

He’ll come inside around 7pm. Kids are starting to get ready for bed. He leads them to their rooms and focuses on putting the youngest down. In that time I’m usually downstairs tidying or go out for a supermarket shop.

At 8.30/9 most nights of the week he goes out to catch up with a friend or work related something. Comes home around midnight or later. If not out he watches his TV series. I’ve started to sleep in the big kids room as he is better at settling the baby at night.

Most nights I stay downstairs scrolling on my phone or doing house chores.

We have intimacy only if he initiates. I have lost my spark for anything pleasure related.

I don’t know how to make him realise he’s losing his connection with me. I am just cordial with him for the most days unless I’m really annoyed I stop talking to him for several days. I’ve tried talking to him and explaining, trying to set work switch off boundaries etc. I don’t know if anyone’s been in this position where you just reach a point of not caring to address the problems anymore.

Will he ever come to realise I’ve accepted I am a single married woman?? Will he even care?? His defence ALWAYS is MONEY. If he doesn’t work this hard we won’t be able to sustain the house and cars etc. I MUST add he is the materialistic one in us and always wants to have things slightly better than everyone else.

What’s your advice on how to make my final plea to him.

I'm yelling at the top of my lungs nowadays with a 3yo

3yo son

I'm a single mom not by choice

I'm so tapped out as a single mom every time my son whines because he's frustrated and can't figure something out screaming "WHATTTTTT" .. like "WHAT NOW?!!!!"

I literally walked away for two fucking seconds

It's the constant neediness. I get it but serious to fucking God I am TAPPED OUT TOUCHED OUT ABSOLUTELY GOING BONKERS

I'M LOSING MY COOL SO OFTEN NOWADAYS

I FEEL LIKE A POS

My son now picks up on my emotions.. he knows when I'm angry or annoyed because I say so. I don't sugar coat anything and I'm emotionally honest so he knows and matches mood with reality and does NOT get confused by my emotions. I make sure to do that

But I'm seriously losing my shit every single day now

I just can't anymore. I wanna die

What's the worst is when he's so tired I have to remind him how tired he is and sometimes have to just drop him in his crib and walk away

IS THIS NORMAL????

What are we doing???

FTM who is now a SAHM that just left a very fast paced and busy full time job, what are we doing to not go stir crazy at home? How are we staying busy ?

Also will say that it’s just me and baby girl at home most of the time, fiancé works out of town.

TV time

Yes it’s not recommended but my little girl is 2 I live alone and use tv time to get housework done. I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for educational shows on YouTube or Disney. My niece is 24 days older than my daughter and watches tv 24/7 can count to 10 and say the alphabet. My daughter can’t do any of that. And I know we shouldn’t compare but it just makes me feel awful

School result day

Anyone else so happy they got their first choice for school in September. Making it feel so real he’s not a baby no more