Men gaze?

Anyone else’s husband very vocal about not liking the “plastic” look? Like everytime he sees a girl with lip injections or heavy makeup up he’s just like “ I don’t know how people like that. It’s not attractive to have all that crap going on”. But like all these of models and junk are all plastic 😅 he dosnt do any of that but I know ALOT of men do. Like I believe him but sometimes I wish I could look more like some of them because my lips are thin and after kids my boobs are saggy but he insists that he loves my body the way it is. Idk just thinking

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My partners not a fan and prefers a more natural look. Everyone likes different things dont they 🤷‍♀️. I'm not at all attracted to big muscley men or men who are too neat lol where some men might think thats what every woman wants its just not true.

My husband hates the lip injections, but every thing else he’s okay with, I know I don’t look like any of those girls, I’m one of the black girls who didn’t get a butt but he thinks I look amazing. I think a lot of me know that those features are not natural for most women but I’m sure they enjoy looking at it. (The ones that do)

My husband isn't a fan either. I did get my lips done a few years ago and he hated them. I like the look of well done fillers and implants. I know my husband loves me and is attracted to me but I know he also finds women who don't look like me attractive. If i had the money though I'd be straight in for some surgery 😂

Everyone’s entitled there opinions but why bring it up everytime he sees it? That’s Annoying. Like my husband hates short hair but guess what I don’t so every few years I will chop it, ik it’s not his favorite but it’s my body and I’m gunna do what I want with it 🤷🏼‍♀️

On our FIRST date, my now husband, asked "So what's under there?" in reference to my wig 🥴😭🤣 I knew he was he one that day lml.
He's always leaned toward the natural look, but has never made me feel less than beautiful for donning a wig or makeup. Now I wear my hair more naturally, usually with a protective style (braids, crochet, etc). The most makeup I wear is a cute lip combo, and a wing at the end of my eyeliner. He doesn't go out of his way to point out women whose gotten work done. We will though, point out exaggerated BBLs and have a giggle lol. If I ever wanted a cosmetic surgery, he'd support it 100%. If anything it'd be a breast reduction 🤔

For clarification I do not point it out all the time and neither does he. I just didn’t know if it’s a common thing or if dudes just say it to throw us off the trail lol! I have said something about getting my boobs done but he has said that he would rather spend the money to get my tubes untied to try for another kid. He’s not against the boobs but he knows that if I get them done I won’t want to try for another because they’ll just get messed up again 😅

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Self employed husband

Hi ladies. I need advice on my relationship and partnership. My husband is self employed. I left work early this year as life became too hard as his schedule as below never changed it’s been like this. His schedule

8.30am wake up and responds to emails and makes work calls

9.30 he gets ready to leave the house for work. I don’t make him any breakfast on principle as I’m overwhelmed with kids and home and he gets bugged by this because he feels the bare minimum I can do for him as a hard working man is to make sure he’s fed.

All day. No contact from him unless he needs something from me. No calls if kids are unwell. No calls if I’ve said I’m not feeling great today. Nothing. But I’ll get back to back calls from him if he wants to know something with urgency.

After school I pick up the kids, and we’re usually home bound for the rest of the evening.

He pulls up to the drive around 6pm most days. Sits in his car doing more admin and work calls.

He’ll come inside around 7pm. Kids are starting to get ready for bed. He leads them to their rooms and focuses on putting the youngest down. In that time I’m usually downstairs tidying or go out for a supermarket shop.

At 8.30/9 most nights of the week he goes out to catch up with a friend or work related something. Comes home around midnight or later. If not out he watches his TV series. I’ve started to sleep in the big kids room as he is better at settling the baby at night.

Most nights I stay downstairs scrolling on my phone or doing house chores.

We have intimacy only if he initiates. I have lost my spark for anything pleasure related.

I don’t know how to make him realise he’s losing his connection with me. I am just cordial with him for the most days unless I’m really annoyed I stop talking to him for several days. I’ve tried talking to him and explaining, trying to set work switch off boundaries etc. I don’t know if anyone’s been in this position where you just reach a point of not caring to address the problems anymore.

Will he ever come to realise I’ve accepted I am a single married woman?? Will he even care?? His defence ALWAYS is MONEY. If he doesn’t work this hard we won’t be able to sustain the house and cars etc. I MUST add he is the materialistic one in us and always wants to have things slightly better than everyone else.

What’s your advice on how to make my final plea to him.

Another toddler keeps hitting my child at a public activity — how should I handle it?

We go to this rhyme time with our kid. There’s a child there who hit my child before. Both of them are two years old, and last time he pushed my kid to the ground. He keeps trying to hit him. His mom does try to hold him back, but today we ran into them again and he hit my child with a book.

I noticed that the mom is trying, but she’s very soft and gentle about it. Every time this happens I get really stressed and I don’t know what to do. I try to keep my child away, but she can’t seem to keep her child far enough from mine.

Honestly, I’m really upset, angry, and tired. I already come to this activity hoping to relax a bit while my child plays, but when things like this happen it just makes me more stressed. If this happened to your child, what would you do? How would you talk to the other mom?

Because I feel like she’s not really warning him or holding him back enough, and this is the third time her child has hit mine.

Wotsits

Such a weird and random question but when did everyone start feeding their babies wotsits etc. according to google not advised under 12m

What are we doing???

FTM who is now a SAHM that just left a very fast paced and busy full time job, what are we doing to not go stir crazy at home? How are we staying busy ?

Also will say that it’s just me and baby girl at home most of the time, fiancé works out of town.

TV time

Yes it’s not recommended but my little girl is 2 I live alone and use tv time to get housework done. I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for educational shows on YouTube or Disney. My niece is 24 days older than my daughter and watches tv 24/7 can count to 10 and say the alphabet. My daughter can’t do any of that. And I know we shouldn’t compare but it just makes me feel awful

Stranger Danger conversation with littles

Hi moms, I want to start a discussion about stranger danger based on something that happened yesterday.

I’m still on maternity leave, and on Wednesdays my husband works late, so every week I take my (almost) 5yo son and 11.5wk old daughter to the park before dinner (usually 6-7pm). We eat dinner later on Wednesdays so we can eat with my husband who usually gets home at 7:30. Yesterday, there was another kid there (he told my son he was 8yo) playing completely alone, no adult was with him the entire time. Him and my son played together while I sat close by with my daughter. I was close enough to see him at all times but couldn’t always hear what they were talking about.

When it was time to leave, the boy started following us home. It was about a 15 minute walk back to our house. He kept asking my son where we live and which house was ours. We live in a large townhome community (500+ townhomes). After a bit and before we got to our block our house was on, I told him it was time for him to head home.

As we walked away, my son told me the boy kept asking him those same questions at the park, plus things like when his dad would be home, does he stay home by himself sometimes and if we have a door camera. My son (completely innocent) told him to follow us so he could show him where we live, that his dad works late on Wednesdays and that our door camera is dead (earlier that day i was on the phone with my husband talking about ordering a new charger for the ring camera bc it had died and wasn’t charging, i assume that’s why my son said the door camera was dead)

I’m sure it was completely innocent, and part of me feels like I might be overreacting, but something about it didn’t sit right with me. So I asked if he knew the boy’s name, and he said no and that the boy wouldn’t tell him, which also felt a little strange.

It definitely made me raise an eyebrow and has me thinking more about having a serious, age appropriate conversation with my son about stranger danger and sharing too much personal information.

How are you or would you approach the conversation about stranger danger with your 4-5 year olds? What would you say and how do you keep it clear but age appropriate?

Would really appreciate an honest & open discussion about this. TIA🤍