Step mom drama

I have two step kids. 1 boy 13 and a girl 5. My husband and I are constantly dealing with their high conflict mother, and it’s a lot. She’s been an issue for the past almost 4 years and I’m making this post to honestly try to make friends that deal with similar situations so I don’t feel so isolated and alone dealing with some of the issues I have to face.

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Feeling guilty

I am feeling really guilty. My baby is almost 8 months old, has learned she can stand up and all she wants to do is hold my hands to stand up. She gets extremely whiny, whingy and frustrated whenever I’m doing something that doesn’t involve holding her hands. This morning I was trying to set up a new baby camera and I couldn’t work out how to do it and she kept trying to climb me and was shouting and whinging. I pick her up and put her down on her bottom and I shouted ‘enough’ and she got really upset. this is probably me just ranting but when does it phase stops?! She used to be entertaining herself up until a couple of weeks ago but now she just won’t entertain herself anymore. I used to play with her and I still do now but before I was able to at least leave her do to bits, now no matter what new toys I show her she won’t let me wash bottles, tidy up, make lunch without crawling to my legs and cry 😭 I end up having to put tv on for a few minutes so I can sit down in peace without her whinging or whining. It’s constant, literally constant

SMP is diabolical

How’s anyone surviving on SMP!? I don’t qualify for free childcare yet so what I’d be paying makes it my whole salary. I’m not entitled to any help at all benefit wise. Ive paid into the system for 15 years and there’s just no help at all. Honestly feeling so stressed and down 😩

Nursery advice

Hi. Feel free to tell me if I am being overdramatic but I need some advice.

Our 13 month old started nursery approx 3 months ago and I just have such negative vibes. He comes home in random clothes sometimes, his nappies are never put on the correct way, he is given different food because they don’t read his allergy plan properly.
I am just fed up.

Baby engaged

How to i get my baby to move further down? What helps he is 4/5 and im 38+2 and i really dont want to go over as im so uncomfortable now the thought of going over makes me want to cry. Any advice would be amazing please ive gone early or early ish with all my others so this is new to me

Need advice

my husband is a different ethnicity to me and his mother doesn’t speak great English and none of the older members of his further family (aunts etc) speak any English. We stay with my MIL.
They are all constantly taking my daughter out of my hands (3 months old) and kissing her etc and it is making me so upset. My husband isn’t usually around to say anything and I can’t say anything as they don’t understand me. They seem to be very judgmental and have a very specific way about doing things (cultural) with babies and don’t understand not kissing them or tbh seem to understand basic respect for the baby’s mother. I feel like I have no choice but to allow them to take her out my hands as they can’t understand me anyway and I don’t like causing issues.
My husband has spoke to his mother about it but she tells him o she doesn’t do it🤣 and he is never there - as he works a lot- to tell the extend family when they are round (which is regularly) to not do it.
I am at a loss. I really don’t know how to stand up for my daughter and my self when they can’t understand me anyway? What am I supposed to do?
They literally just take her out of my arms I can’t hold her tight because I don’t want to hurt her and they can’t understand if I say no lol I just idk what to do. And the kissing too?
Help please

Am I being over the top?

When my baby was about 4mths old he was with his fathers parents (so my sons grandparents) and they fed him and they kept it hidden from me for about 2 months!
My partner found out and said they were wrong not to tell us and they agreed but said they knew that I wouldn’t have liked it.. so then my partner and his parents all kept it hidden from me!!! I feel betrayed by all of them. And now my partner gets in a mood when I say they aren’t babysitting our son…am I being over the top or am I in my rights to feel like this?
To this day have not said what they fed him and he was at the time suffering with constipation.