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Baby Daddy Drama

Venting...relatable?

I have had primary physical custody of my daughter since birth (she's a little under 2 years old). I care for her while I work my FT remote job and I have successfully balanced that while supervising and caring for her, and her development has been great. Her dad has her a couple days each week due to his inconsistent and at times unpredictable schedule.
I have worked 2 jobs since pregnancy, and he does not provide financial assistance outside of when he covers her costs during his parenting time.
My burnout and lack of energy from working 2 jobs and being primary parent are not his problem but several months back it clicked that it should be more balanced. I asked him for a modest monthly amount to make financial support for her more fair. He said no, because he would have to get a second job. So I filed with the state for a child support order.
Suddenly, paternity was contested. At every opportunity, he did what he could to drag it out and delay a determination. It worked, they finally sent their proposal (of way more than I requested) last week. He can still appeal it, and he will because guess what....

I was served with his custody petition! He is requesting 50/50 on an alternating week schedule for a toddler, that mind you is still breastfed for naps, bedtime, and comfort. He's also requesting that no child support be ordered, and to change her last name from mine to his.

I am exhausted and can't help but imagine the worst case scenario of him getting everything how he has requested it. I am scrambling to get an attorney, but with the help of chatGPT and the online answer form I was able to draft a pretty impressive answer and proposed parenting plan in my opinion. I am just trying to be the best mom I can be for our daughter, and it feels like a slap in the face to have him disregarding her best interests for control and to avoid child support. I just needed to vent to moms that maybe get it, because it's so freaking heavy...but I wish nobody could relate to this because it's not something I'd wish on anyone.