Mum wants to be at birth

Tell her you're only allowed to have 1 person in there with you.

My mom was the same way but I really wanted the delivery to be a special moment for just my husband and I, so I offered her a compromise. I told her she could be in the room while I was laboring but as soon as it was time to deliver, she needed to go to the waiting room and then she would be welcome to come back in after the baby had been born and I had been cleaned up. She wasn't super excited about it at first but got over it pretty quickly. She was in the room with us during the whole 32 hours that I labored and then I ended up having a cesarean so I didn't even have to worry about her trying to stay in the room for delivery 😅 We're now pregnant with our second and I'm aiming for a VBAC and plan on keeping the same boundary. I'd just recommend telling her that you want her to be there after the baby is born, but that you want the delivery to be a special moment between you and your husband only.

I don’t have an answer, but my mother is adamantly requesting the same thing.

Another thing to consider is having your husband be the one to take care of you while giving birth and have mom be in charge of watching what happens with baby since dad can't watch you both. This is what I ended up doing because I wanted eyes on the baby as soon as he got out.

I would just sit down and explain to her what your wishes are. Say she's more than welcome to book a hotel and stay close by if she wants to be. My Mum was there for all of my labour along side my partner. It did end up being incredible and they really tag teamed to take care of me and my daughter when she was born.

If you don't want that she was also a godsend in the early days. She cooked meals, cleaned, did the washing, hugged me while I cried my eyes out during the hormone crash a couple of days later!