Regret

Had an interesting chat with my best friend today who’s on the fence about whether she wants to have kids or not

She proceeded to tell me that most of the people she knows with kids have told her they regret having them, wished they’d never had them, or that it “completely ruined their lives”. She said all of her work colleagues with kids repeatedly tell her “don’t do it” and that if they could go back in time they never would have had their children, which kind of surprised me as it’s not an opinion I’ve really heard much myself but she’s saying shes now been lead to believe the majority of people actually regret having their children but don’t admit it, and it’s really put her off and steered her away from thinking she wants to be a mum one day

Made me curious - has anyone here ever felt like that at times? Even on my worst days where the kids have driven me CRAZY I can’t imagine undoing it or wishing to have not had them, but I know everyone’s experience is different so would be really interesting to hear other perspectives!

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I’ve never felt that way. My kids r my world even on a rough day .

My thoughts say it,but my soul and heart is greatfull to have my baby. And is because of my daughter that I work to be better, if she never come I know life would be unhappy

I left my relationship due to dv and I've still never felt that way. I hate her father but my daughter is the best thing to ever happen to me. She makes every bad day a good one. I love my baby more than anything

I don’t know anyone that wish they never had kids they have doesn’t matter the circumstances

Naw I’m glad I had mine and also glad I waited till I was stable and could actually afford to have a child and i have experienced life now I just want to experience with my daughter and show her the world

Ive read forums before and even tiktok videos FULL of people saying this. That they love their children but if they had their time again they wouldnt do it. It shook me to my core the sheer amount of people who had that opinion. I cant blame her for feeling this way. Im surprised people are telling her this in person, but yeah...a few searches will scare a person and its far more common than you think. Its not "accepted" to say this but many think it.

My only regret is not having them sooner.

Being a mom is the happiest thing that’s ever happened to me. I was meant to be a mom and said I didn’t want a kid to the first 37 yrs of my life. I had my son at 38 by accident and wish that I’d had him 10 yrs ago and probably at least 1 more. He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I don’t wish for a second that I didn’t have him. It makes me sad for those people’s children in all honesty. I know now that I was absolutely put on this earth to be a mom. That’s a lot from a business owner with a masters degree and 7 licenses through the state. I’d give it up today if I could to be a full time mom.

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