Funeral
My partner's uncle has just passed, and she said she wants to take our 5 nearly 6 months old to the funeral
Should we take him, or should I stay home with him.
I want to be there for her on the day, but I'm not sure about taking our LO any advice??
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It's personal choice. You can always stand at the back with baby and step out if needed. You could also just attend for a short amount of time. At that age they don't really know what's going on.
I agree with Poonam, this is a personal choice and there’s no right or wrong.
When my eldest was about 9 months we had a funeral to attend. I actually managed to arrange for my parents to have our son for the actual service, they just sat outside in the car with him. It meant we could take him to the wake, which we did want to do as we felt having our whole family together was a nice way to have some sort of closure to the day, but my concern with him being at the funeral was that if he’d been fussy I would have left (I just didn’t want to disrupt anyone’s mourning with a crying baby through the service) but I wanted to be there for my husband (it was his dad’s funeral and therefore a difficult day for him).
Don’t know if that helps!
I took my 3 month old twins to a funeral, I just stayed at the back in case I needed to leave if one cried, it was very appreciated by the family and it made a lot of people smile to see us there
my grandad passed 6 days after my son was born and he was 1.5 months at the funeral, my brother had his youngest 2 (age 2 and 3) with him as well. i just made sure i overpacked to be on the safe side. i did walk out of the service with him half way through as he started crying, and took my youngest niece with me because my brother kept telling her she had to be quiet and she just kept saying “why?”😭
ultimately i found that everyone was so excited to see him that they actually didn’t care that he got a little bit upset during the service. it was me overthinking and being paranoid, thinking he was being more disruptive than he actually was. if there’s a child/baby there, people don’t expect them to be silent, most of them have had kids themselves.
having said that, you may not want everyone fussing over your little one. i don’t think there’s any harm taking him but make your boundaries clear with everyone and truthfully you guys may not be there too long because of little man anyway x
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