If you were walking on an isolated cycle path with no one else on it aside from a strange looking man, would you intervene if he was asking for help with an insect in his eye?

This happened to me the other day and it creeped me out, and I’m wondering if I was being over the top.

The man was hovering around a bike attending to it, so I assumed he had a bike problem, but then as soon as he saw me, he started walking towards me, and said he had an emergency and he needed me to look in his eye. I asked why and he said because an insect flew into it. His eye looked normal and he wasn’t squinting or anything like that, but kept saying it was an emergency and he needed me to look.

I said no and told him to asked a man. I said I didn’t feel safe on my own on the isolated path coming any closer to him. He stormed off angry and then kept turning around and just standing there looking back at me, which scared me even more.

Was I being over the top or unreasonably? Was I an arsehole for not helping him? Do you believe his story about his eye? This is now the fourth man who has approached me in this area with either a strange request or who has threatened me, so admittedly I’m on high alert at this point.

In my head I was thinking the minute I come close to this man, he’s going to do something to me because why can he just poke the insect out himself instead of asking a lone woman on a cycle path to inspect his eye?

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No. No man ever really needs a women’s help. This is a common tactic that rapist and criminals use to hurt women and children. They prey on your empathetic tendencies. If he was truly injured I’m sure you would have seen it/he would have had symptoms. But truly, what is helpful about looking at it for him? He could have used his cellphone camera or gone back to his car to look at it.

I don't think I'd go so far as to say "no man ever needs a woman's help," but I don't blame you for being cautious. Better safe than sorry. I'm sure he was irritated, but if he did in fact need help, the worst case scenario is he eventually gets the bug out himself and moves on with his day. Worst case scenario for you is that your instincts were right, he wasn't in trouble at all, and he could have been dangerous. Better to err on the side of caution.

I don't think you should have helped in this situation. Lets say he was being honest and needed help... it's just in insect. I've had bugs fly into my eyes plenty of times and except for when I was a child, I didn’t need help. I wouldn't even consider bothering someone with such a small matter. I think he was a creep and would have tried something if he got close to you!

That's creepy AF . Ya no thanks I wouldn't help him either and I'm happy your here to write this cause who knows what his real intentions were...
Also the fact that is the 4th time they could be working together and Id honestly report this so many there's some security or cop presence there watching this area!! Sounds super sketchy!

The fact that he actually got mad about that is a red flag! Any normal nice human being would be like no worries thanks anyways...I understand!

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