Anyone else completely burned out????

I am so close to losing it. My baby is 9 weeks and she is the cutest sweetest baby and I genuinely think I’m very lucky because she’s really not that difficult (and everyone keeps telling me this and I agree) yet I’m still so overwhelmed and burned out. At week 6 she started only wanting contact naps during the day, fine I did this. She doesn’t like to be babyworn I need to hold her and sit. Now at weeks 9 just a regular contact nap is not enough, she only settles when I hold her and jump through hoops, make saltos, bounce, swing, whatever freaking movement exists she wants that otherwise she won’t sleep. My body can’t take this anymore and if I don’t do this she doesn’t sleep and gets all crazy. They said it would het better by week 8 but it’s only getting worse - I feel like such a bad mum because I can’t even deal with one baby. HOW DO YOU MUMS DO THIS WITH MORE KIDS?? I respect you so much!!!! I want 4 kids but I can’t even handle 1. Anyway that’s all for now. And yes she feeds well, is not colic, has not a lot of gas discomfort so that’s all okay, sleeps well at night and my husband is the best and supportive help when he’s home from work. Yet I still can’t manage. Great.

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You are not alone my Freya is ten weeks old and I'm completely burnout

I feel over touched and overwhelmed most days

She's also full of gas and screams in discomfort by the end of the day we have had to give her a dummy the past few nights to calm it all down

I will not be having anymore

This is my 2nd and I honestly dont remember this with my first 😂
Im going to be cliche and say it will pass. My son loves me jogging up and down the living room to go to sleep. Theres no such thing as a simply rocking to sleep. I have to reenact a roller coaster. My backs fucked and im touched out. It doesnt get "better" by week 8 in that sense in my opinion. I think their temperament gets better but they still need a lot of attention. The 4th trimester is very much a shock to new mums and even "seasoned" mums. With my boy being my second child, I just tell myself that during this stage my body is not mine for now and I will get it back otherwise I'll drive myself crazy. Another cliche, but we're literally they're entire world right now.. it will get better but it never seems that way when youre in the thick of it. Take one day at a time ❤️❤️

Also without being a Debbie downer, youre not going to feel yourself until about 2 years after birth i was 10000000% one and done and then once I hit the 2 year mark well it was 2.5 for me approximately, i said i could do it again 😂🫣

I went through the same thing with my little girl I’ve definitely spoilt her if that’s even possible at almost 11 weeks but the point is I let her lead and I follow her needs and she seems so much happier
I try stimulating her as much as possible during her wake window so she’s tired enough to be put down for naps and always put her in her crib for her night sleep while she’s drowsy I think that’s get her use to less movement for sleep
My baby is very gassy and can be super upsetting and stressful when she’s in pain but I think keeping her upright (more gravity) helps
I some times use infacol
For my own mental sate I’ve come to accept that this is my life now and that’s definitely helped me accept the moment and enjoy it more

Will she sleep if out on a walk/in the car. I sometimes go for a walk/drive and then just have a 20min powernap before I take him out of the receptacle he fell asleep in. This has transitioned to him sometimes giving me 20 mins, but I usually do chores etc when he's awake as he's quiet. I don't get anything done but on a day I've had a power nap I feel less like murdering the anyone in my house who chews loudly etc.

Totally feel your pain! I don’t know if this is useful at all but I recently started using an app to track naps for my 10 week old. The app suggests times he’ll want to nap based on lots of other baby nap data apparently and I find that if he misses a suggested nap window he gets super agitated and I have to do somersaults to get him to nap after that! Also I find that he naps better in the day now in a dark room. Hope this might be helpful ❤️

I'm going through the same. My baby only contact naps and takes a lot of effort to put him to sleep and stay asleep even in my arms. It's physically exhausting. I can deal with colic, reflux, gas but contact napping is just exhausting. In my opinion if you never had to contact nap and/or chest sleep at night you are experiencing a different postpartum experience.

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I’m 1 week postpartum and I cry all the time. When the baby cries, I cry even more. When he can’t sleep, I get anxious and start crying too. I feel like I’m having severe baby blues. I’m not able to eat or drink, and I feel so sad. I don’t know why I’m feeling this way.

Will it get better?

I feel afraid, anxious, and overwhelmed. Also, when we hold the baby, he sleeps, but when we put him down, he wakes up, and it makes me so anxious.

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Sleep

Hi All!

I am just wanting some advice,

Currently my 3 month nearly 4 month old baby sleeps from 11pm-11am with one waking throughout the night, which I am definitely not complaining about!

But she will only nap for 20-40 mins throughout the day no matter what I try in terms of contact nap, in cot, etc.

Is there anything I could do help extend those naps or is she getting enough sleep at night, there’s no pressure for sleep?

Or do I just leave it for now, knowing the 4 month sleep regression is about to start?

How long does this feeling last postpartum?

I've just had my second baby a few days ago, our toddler is nearly 3.

I forgot how much of a whack your body and mind take in the first few days with hormones crashing and obviously sore from birth. I'm definitely coping a bit better this time round, but the added pressure of having a toddler to look after too is taking its toll a bit on my husband and I. I think we're both feeling quite anxious and overwhelmed.

I'm struggling to sleep when baby is sleeping, even though she's been fab so far and managing some good stretches of sleep, feeding well etc. I wasn't sure if that anxiety would hit me like last time (checking she's breathing every 2 seconds) but it is and I can't fully relax to sleep at night.

Currently my husband and I are having to take shifts during the night so at least one of us is awake, which isn't ideal but it means we both sleep better when we do, we just get less.

Although I'm breastfeeding and baby needs me more. It is a little overwhelming. It's especially overwhelming when I'm trying to feed etc and my toddler is desperate for my attention and I can't do anything for him because I'm stuck feeding and I'm also still really sore from birth and can't just hop up to play with him.

Obviously his dad is there for him but his dad is also holding down the fort house-wise and doing all the chores and dinners etc, so we're just feeling like it's getting on top of us a bit.

Trying to just let it be and go with the flow but its quite difficult. I had a big cry and panic going to bed earlier because I just felt like everything was too much. My body is in bits, I have to take blood thinning injections which I hate so much, I'm paranoid about baby spitting up even though I know its totally normal, I'm worried for my toddler and allthe change, he's been a little difficult and I feel like I can't be there for him properly. His dad is really worried about him too and is worried he's no longer a happy child because we've had a second baby, and I understand what he means because it feels like he's just constantly having tantrums and freaking over everything and getting upset easily.

I don't know what I'm looking for really, just any advice or reassurance I think. It's currently nearly 4am and I'm awake now for the day, there's no way I'll be able to fall asleep, my husband has been awake most of the night with baby and has now went to bed. It's just a lot and maybe we're making it more difficult for ourselves, I don't know. I'm just struggling more than I thought I would.