Ferber method

Has anyone tried this? I started tonight and I just can’t wait 5+ minutes, especially with him being in our room.
He goes down fine at night but is up at 4 am every morning, at this point he’s not hungry it’s just habit. I’ve been trying for over an hour now I feel like I’m not getting anywhere, it’s like he’s wide awake wired. He’s 6 months for record.
I end up putting him on boob and putting him in bed with me as I’m just exhausted.
I read about offering water instead at this time to break the cycle, but he still can’t soothe himself back to sleep so it still takes me over an hour to get him back down, at that point he’s basically done a wake window 🥲 please help!

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We have a child who liked to be awake in the night, eventually he would go back to sleep on his own. If baby is not distressed but simply wide awake then leave them to self soothe in their own time. Go in, check on them and remind them its time to sleep and then leave. If they are distressed then go in but each time you go in, stay for less time. You dont have to wait until baby is asleep to leave. If you wait until they are asleep, it has them believing that they need you to be able to sleep. They meed help getting confidence to go to sleep on their own. It can feel hard at times but as long as baby is safe and not distressed then they're ok. Do you have blackout curtains/ blinds? Is it thr light waking baby? Also, have you considered if baby is ready for their own room? If you're not ready then dont worry but it may help.

4am wake for a while usually means timings aren't right.

What time does he wake, nap and go to bed?

I'd look at adjusting that first before sleep training.

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Honest question

Do you ever place your baby on their front to go to sleep? I’m talking 7+ months. Especially if you know they will sleep better and longer?

Random noises

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Would you be annoyed?

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Pram question...

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Also if anyone else has this pram please let me know what you think!

Need help!

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Will it get better?

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Is this normal?

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She proceeded to tell me that most of the people she knows with kids have told her they regret having them, wished they’d never had them, or that it “completely ruined their lives”. She said all of her work colleagues with kids repeatedly tell her “don’t do it” and that if they could go back in time they never would have had their children, which kind of surprised me as it’s not an opinion I’ve really heard much myself but she’s saying shes now been lead to believe the majority of people actually regret having their children but don’t admit it, and it’s really put her off and steered her away from thinking she wants to be a mum one day

Made me curious - has anyone here ever felt like that at times? Even on my worst days where the kids have driven me CRAZY I can’t imagine undoing it or wishing to have not had them, but I know everyone’s experience is different so would be really interesting to hear other perspectives!