Am I being over the top?
When my baby was about 4mths old he was with his fathers parents (so my sons grandparents) and they fed him and they kept it hidden from me for about 2 months!
My partner found out and said they were wrong not to tell us and they agreed but said they knew that I wouldn’t have liked it.. so then my partner and his parents all kept it hidden from me!!! I feel betrayed by all of them. And now my partner gets in a mood when I say they aren’t babysitting our son…am I being over the top or am I in my rights to feel like this?
To this day have not said what they fed him and he was at the time suffering with constipation.
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When you say they "fed him" I'm not sure what the issue is? unless he was only breast fed at the time then I get you 🤔 4 months old would be way too young for anything else I'm pretty sure...
That is wild.... I would never leave my kid with them ever
Fed him solids you mean?
Regardless, that's a major breach in trust. I'd be upset with your husband especially. He shouldn't be doing anything regarding your child that you don't agree on, and it's even worse to do so and then hide it. Not okay and you're not being over the top. I wouldn't want them babysitting either. They admitted they knew you'd be upset, so they totally disregard what you want for your child as his mom.
I would be absolutely fuming if anyone had fed either of my children at 4 months old without my consent. I was very clear on my boundaries and that trust would be gone if they were broken. No wonder you feel betrayed, you have every right to feel that way. I also wouldn’t trust them to be around my child without supervision because god knows what else they’d be willing to do and hide from you. They don’t respect your boundaries as a parent and clearly knew it was wrong or they wouldn’t have hidden it x
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