Do you think they’re obligated to disclose a cancer diagnosis and active chemotherapy
When should they tell you?
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I wouldn’t say obligated but my goodness, if I could be helpful in some way, I’d like to know. Maybe by the third or fourth date, especially if we’re vibin?

It depends on what their looking for, support, love, care…. Maybe what they want doesn't Aline with what you're looking for and this can be very difficult

Not obligated but if the relationship is going to go anywhere they should.

The person wants to continue with life as normal, do the treatment and go into remission, and ultimately find someone to settle down with and ideally start a family.

Absolutely not. No one is obligated to tell others their medical issues unless it could harm others.

Chemo drugs can linger in body fluids (semen), so before I sleep with them yes

I’d say 3rd or 4th date. It’s not fair to the person to not tell them what they may be getting into. Some people can’t handle that and that’s ok.

Some chemo can be secreted in bodily fluids. My husband's grandfather wasn't allowed to use hand towels that others used because of sweat etc. so I'd say in those instances yes you should if there's potential for physical touch

I wouldn’t say obligated, but it’s really dumb not to tell someone up front. Sure, it might end the relationship before it takes off, but it’s better to find out what kind of person they are sooner rather than later. I knew my hubs was a disabled veteran when I asked him out, I also knew that his injuries would almost certainly worsen w/age, but he was worth taking the risk & I felt that almost immediately after we met. When I became disabled a few years later I was trying to give him an easy out, bc I didn’t feel like he had signed up for being the sole provider for a woman & the child she had brought into the relationship w/her. He totally threw it back at me w/ a “you think you’re the only one of us who weighed all the pros & cons before we got serious, bc you’d be wrong”. If all the info is available & they still go ahead w/it, that’s a pretty good sign of it being a good potential match for an actual long term relationship.

Probably an unpopular one but my opinion is that big stuff like that should be disclosed straightaway so nobody wastes their time.
I personally wouldn't persue someone going through treatment for cancer and that's just for selfish reasons really as it's a lot to go through and can be avoided without any hurt at all if you don't know the person and have no connections.

my mom went through chemo treatments last year and none of this was true for her.

I have no clue what you are trying to say here. My mom went through chemo and had no restrictions. She stayed in the same room with my dad and kissed him and us and my children.

again I have no clue what you are saying. Her oncologist said it was fine. I was pregnant with my second so my mom had multiple conversations about it all.
So maybe take it up with him 🤷🏻♀️ I’d be happy to provide his name if you wanna whine to him about it!

I’m pretty sure it was the typical level. She had stage 3 lung cancer.
My point is you are not an oncologist. And even if you were, every patient and their treatment is different.
So thus back to the question at hand… you do not know anyone’s treatment plan. You are not entitled to other people’s cancer diagnoses.

it doesn’t even matter. You coming on here acting like you know something about cancer because you had a great uncle that had it is funny and a little offensive. And like the AUDACITY!!
“ I hate when people don’t listen to the briefings”. Disrespectfully, fuck all the way off.
I’m done here before I get banned for saying the things I want to right now. Have the life you deserve 😘

I'm confused about this talk of chemo affecting others. I went to chemo with my grandma and slept in the same bed as her. She has breast cancer and lost all her hair.

No one has to disclose anything to anyone. Addressing the chemo thing. One of our clients is currently doing chemo. Any sort of contact with him we have to wear FULL PPEn gown, gloves, face shield. So do the housekeeps when they clean his bathroom. One of the housekeepers is also trying to get pregnant and is not allowed to clean his room or be in contact with him at all.
I’m a FTM looking for some advice please.
I’ve just started putting my 9 week old in her sleeping bag at night the temperature when we go to bed is around 20/21 degrees I have been putting her in a 1 tog sleeping bag with her sleepsuit per the guide on the sleep bag. The temperature is dropping to about 16/17 degrees throughout the night making it colder.
Would you continue to put her in the 1 tog or would you put her in a warmer tog when she’s going to bed knowing the temperature is going to drop? I am worried about overheating her. TIA xx

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I breastfed for 18 months and it was more because I knew it was good for baby and then when we got into it, it was for convenience and ease. But I also felt that it took things away like baby being able to spend long periods of time with family (he wouldn’t take a bottle), and also I had a lack of freedom lol.
I’d do it again and don’t regret it but I never got the “I love breastfeeding, I love the closeness, it’s magical” kinda feeling that I read people talking about.
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