I’m struggling with my 2-week old

I really need to vent.

I feel like I can’t do this. I’m struggling so badly. I often cry when my baby cries. I get panicky when I can’t figure out what’s wrong. I feel like a bad mom, but I care about my baby and love him so much that it hurts.

I was neglected and abused as a child and I feel so much guilt for struggling so bad or even complaining in the first place. I want to be able to keep it together, but it feels so impossible sometimes. And I just want my baby to be happy and healthy but I feel like I’m doing a terrible job.

And I feel bad for my husband who has to deal with a crying baby and a crying wife. And I feel jealous of him because he handles everything so well and he’s naturally good at juggling stress, but I am the opposite. I feel like a terrible and ill-prepared mom.

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So normal! I think it’s more rare to find a mom that doesn’t breakdown at one point pp. It’s a lot to take on.. I truly think as a people we’re meant to be surrounded by generations of family so the help is there. You’ll eventually be proud of yourself that you made it through. It sounds like you have a really good husband. Have him do at least one feeding at night if he can so you can get a little more uninterrupted sleep.

You are not alone!! I felt the same exact way until about 6 weeks PP, and then it started to get incrementally easier. Don’t get me wrong, I still cry and doubt myself, but you will start to find your rhythm and realize this is not forever and you can do this!!! Feeling guilty about being emotional and being jealous of your husband is something I also struggled with, but it’s helpful to look at their ease of becoming a father as grounding. And you carried your little one for so long, your husband can carry you both during this time

Youre not alone . Its alot. Its a huge change. Your hormones arent even close to settled. Dont worry about ur mans right now. Right now its just u and baby for least another 4-6 weeks. I got on zoloft and it was life changing

I also had a traumatic abusive childhood and have struggled with anxiety and depression. It was necessary and still is 20 months PP.. talk to someone

Write your feelings down. Ur feelings dont define you

See what needs arent being met and if u rly have the time lookup the BEND method and practice it every time ur frustrated . Im tellin u IT WORKS. When ur upset asking. Im overwhelmed? Why? (Well i didnt eat or sleep well..) ok so what can i do? I can make a snack, .. ok now what im still upset? How about i try to manage my emotions with deep breathing etc

I know its hard in the moment but this is an excellent skill to work on , there will always be challenges and no one is coming to save u. The good thing is, you have EVERYTHING u need to succeed. U have u

If u ever want to dm me u can btw babe. Being a mom is HARD.

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