Struggling...

I love my babies dont get me wrong. They have about a year and 6 months in between them. Currently am feeling like a rubbish mother, I feel so run down and tired all the time. Have moments when the little one (5months) wakes up am not always happy to see her, coz it comes with a lot of effort and attention that sometimes am just too tired and just want to relax or get some rest. With my oldest I know that is easy shes a very independent girl and will play on her own and watch her shows when am resting my eyes. But ofcourse this makes me feel guilty as I feel like I should be doing more for them but my body just won't allow it at the moment. I feel guilty mainly because i love my little one but sometimes think about how life would be much easier and simpler if it was just me and her older sister. I feel like is not PMAD postpartum but could It be?. Because at other times I can't wait for her to wake up (younger child) and play with her and make her smile. And other days I just feel like running away from them both, from everyone and come back the next day ofcourse. Just trying to process the emotions.

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Sleeping bags

I’m a FTM looking for some advice please.

I’ve just started putting my 9 week old in her sleeping bag at night the temperature when we go to bed is around 20/21 degrees I have been putting her in a 1 tog sleeping bag with her sleepsuit per the guide on the sleep bag. The temperature is dropping to about 16/17 degrees throughout the night making it colder.

Would you continue to put her in the 1 tog or would you put her in a warmer tog when she’s going to bed knowing the temperature is going to drop? I am worried about overheating her. TIA xx

Did anyone else not really love breastfeeding?

I breastfed for 18 months and it was more because I knew it was good for baby and then when we got into it, it was for convenience and ease. But I also felt that it took things away like baby being able to spend long periods of time with family (he wouldn’t take a bottle), and also I had a lack of freedom lol.
I’d do it again and don’t regret it but I never got the “I love breastfeeding, I love the closeness, it’s magical” kinda feeling that I read people talking about.

18 month old still has witching hour?

Help?!!!! My 18 month old from the day he was born has been absolute hell past 4pm. No matter how much sleep he has he whinges and cries at EVERY thing, all evening. My partner is really stressed out with it, as we thought by now he might have grown out of it. He’s sleeps 7:30pm- 6am, and 11:30-1:30 day nap. Eats WELL, that is what he actually mostly whinges at now… Always screaming at the kitchen cupboards. I don’t know what to do😩 is this happening to anyone else

Sleep training

Has anyone got any advice on sleep training? My nearly 15 week old is fine at night sleeps in her moses basket in our room still but in the day she will not go down in the cot in the living room as soon as I put her down she’s awake and won’t go back to sleep 😩

Tampons after birth

When did you start using tampons after birth?

I’m 6 weeks post c-section today and started my first period. I absoloutely hate pads with a passion I’m so fed up of them I just want to start using tampons again but information online is misleading.

Period & milk supply

Did anyone find that when they got their period their milk supply got less? Think my first period is starting and noticed I'm finding I'm pumping less and less milk at the moment and wonder if they're connected.