Struggling today

I have an 18 month old and I’m 20 weeks pregnant. I’m struggling today mentally, I tried to do a home workout because for me exercise really helps my mental health and my daughter just screamed at me until I pick her up. It’s just the realisation that my life isn’t mine anymore and it’s going to be even less of that with another child.

Everything I do is for my child and it’s so tiring 😞 I went from being fully independent and doing whatever I want to becoming a wife and mother. There are days I enjoy it but it’s rough and I feel so lonely my husband works a lot to provide for us and I don’t have close friends locally.

I just feel regretful for my life decisions I really loved my life before being a mother. both pregnancies were “mistakes” but I was married and didn’t want to terminate so I guess I just have to deal with the consequences now.

I’m sure most mums can relate in some way. I’ve just burst into tears now. I’m exhausted physically and mentally. Now I’ve just put the TV on for my child and I already feel so shit that she’s watching a lot of screen time when we are at home - I try to get out the house a lot with her but I do find it hard especially whilst pregnant

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Totally understand ❤️ I have a 10 year old and 2 year old girls and 13 week old boy.
The girls are so hormonal and constantly fight. Im struggling loads more this time with resentment towards my husband as he just goes off for a day to do what he likes.
I love my kids and so lucky I've been able to be a stay at home mum with the youngest 2 but omg its so hard.
Like you said its not really physically its mentally and emotionally exhausting and I've lost myself too.

Be gentle on yourself. Parenthood is hard. Parenthood while pregnant is another level of hard. I could have written this post a few years ago. We have three kids now. My youngest is 9 months. So when I tell you I have been there in every possible way, I get it. I want to tell you, even if it feels like it, you aren’t alone. You can even message me if you need someone that can truly relate to how you feel. I don’t have answers, because I still don’t know the answer to this big question. But I can completely empathize

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Social media really knows how to unlock new fears 😅

I just saw an Instagram reel saying babies can refuse breastmilk when your period comes back or if you get pregnant 😳

This hasn’t happened to me (yet), but now I’m low-key stressing… has anyone experienced this?? Did your baby actually refuse feeds or was everything fine?

Would love some real experiences because social media has me spiralling a bit 🥲

I had the thought “I hate you” and it scared me 😭

I’m 2 weeks PP and sleep deprived and exhausted. I had the thought and then felt incredibly guilty and scared. I love my baby so much and I would never do anything to hurt her so this thought freaks me out. I think more accurately I’m just struggling right now and hate some of the changes in my life.

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Ive asked them numerous times not to, and to use the pack n play that we have set up in their room (until we get another crib). Ive had MULTIPLE conversations and arguments with my husband about it (its a culture thing to co-sleep).
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