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Parenting

I live with my mum and my step dad, I think I’m doing good at parenting but everytime i do something, they have an opinion and make me feel like a bad mum. My daughter (only 5 weeks) just had a bath and my mum decided to lay her on the floor (with a playmat under her) and just leave her there to soak in the air, my daughter was yelling and screaming because I think she was cold but my step dad thinks because I hold her too much… it’s my choice on how I raise my daughter.

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Unreasonable or nah?

Partner wanted to take son to see his grandad at the pub at 6pm. I said thats fine but he needs ro be back by half 7 absolute LATEST because his bedtime is actually 7, but I wanted to give them longer. He starts arguing, saying son can sleep in the pram. I say no, you know he doesnt sleep well in the pram and he doesnt transfer well, bedtime will be a battle and so will the night shift. He says he'll handle it but I say it's not the point, our son needs routine. He starts yelling at me, telling me I'm being controlling and he can do what he wants with our son. It becomes a massive thing, resulting in me saying 'if you cant compromise, youre not taking our son anywhere'. He tries to backpeddle and say he'll bring him back, its gone 6 now and hes losing time. I say no, until you learn to respect our sons wants and needs and out them before your own/your dad's, it's not happening

Hes now crying in the garden to his dad about what a bitch I am and tbh, I'm ready to pack my shit and leave.

For context: 1) I do ALL the nightshifts. My partner never wakes, if I want help I have to wake him. But if I wake him he gets shitty and makes the whole nighttime thing way more stressful, so I've stopped bothering. Partner says this is MY problem as I'm choosing to do it alone..
2) his dad won't come to ours apparently, because i 'dont make him feel welcome'. Weird, considering I hugged him last time I saw him and hand painted an engagement card, but Im a cunt ig?
3) last time he took him to the pub, he didnt come back until 11pm, despite me ringing several times asking him to being him home. He left eventually...after his friends told him to.

What’s your reaction to this

One of my family members are homeschooling their children, they do not teach their children much. When I asked He said there 10-year-old is learning how to read by playing Minecraft. They were very happy by this fact.

Partners Paternity Leave

How much is everyone’s partners involved in baby care during their paternity leave? Mine pulls his weight at night, but it’s 90% down to me during the day whilst he continues to spend his time doing the things he enjoys.

Baby food

When are we supposed to start giving baby solid and water.
My baby is currently 9 weeks I’m exclusively breastfeeding and feel extremely week after every breastfeed these days I feel light headed need to grab something to eat.
Even after eating enough just feel the constant need to eat because of which I seem to be gaining weight

No idea what to do ……..
I’m so confused rn

Solid foods

When you started to give 1st bite of solid food to the girl?

Anyone else's LO so miserable when there at home with you?

From the minute he wakes up to the moment he goes to bed hes constantly crying/whinging/moaning.I honestly dont know what he wants anymore, only time he will prob stop for 10min is if im giving him my 100% attention, which is hard cos we also have another child

So annoying though cos when hes at childminder apparently hes an absolute angel ☹️ feel like im really starting to struggle to even be around him cos of the constant noise 😢 also not helping with the constant fighting with his older brother