Thinking about Divorce
My husband and I were talking earlier about all of us going to get a hair cut (him, our 3 yr old son and I) and I showed him the kind of haircut I wanted to get which was like a short pixie type thing and he didn't really look all the happy about it so I asked him what was wrong and he said he didn't take me for a tomboy. I was surprised by this and our conversation went something like this:
"Well your mom is more of a tomboy than you are"
"No she's not I just don't have the money to buy the clothes I want or cut my hair"
"ur not a tomboy lol"
"I really am. I'd love to have short hair and dress like a guy like I used too but I don't. I can't buy the clothes I want to wear because of our financial burden and I don't cut my hair because I'm afraid you'll leave me."
"I really wish I had known that before I married you"
For me that was like a slap in the face and I realized pretty clearly that I've been burying myself for this man, and now that I'm trying to find myself again it's like it's a threat.
I've been thinking about leaving him on and off for almost a year but I've always chickened out because of all the "what ifs".
Am I being dramatic to be upset by this? Is thinking of divorce taking it too far?
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Not being dramatic that’s a red flag. I’m so sorry you shouldn’t have to feel like that! I’d definitely sit and have a talk with him and just say how you feel and go from there.
Physical attraction is such a huge part of your relationship, if you’ve never looked or dressed this way before I can understand he may have reservations about it if it’s not the way he’s ever known you before. I agree a discussion would be reasonable at this stage, to see how it progresses and how you both feel x
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