Soothing baby question

context: sometimes it takes me a few minutes to soothe my baby and my mom tends to want to hold him thinking she can soothe him faster.

question: how long should i wait before i let someone else give it a go at soothing my baby?

i feel like it destroys my confidence when my mom wants to jump in immediately when my baby is teething and a little hard to soothe. I don’t think people see me as someone capable of calming my own baby down because I’m a young mom even though I’m always ready to do so. that being said, I’m willing to put my ego aside if there’s some science behind letting someone else soothe your baby if you can’t do it yourself under a specific amount of time.

hope my question makes sense. thanks in advance!

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For myself, I would have to put a boundary in place if someone was behaving that one as soon as my baby started becoming unsettled

If My husband's home then I will keep trying and trying ,
If it gets to the point, I feel overwhelmed then I will pass the baby to my husband

I have the same problem I continue to try and sooth her sometimes it takes awhile and she’s just over stimulated but if all comes to all and I just can’t get her to calm down I hand her to my fiance (her dad) and sometimes he can but i normally just keep trying until all comes to all and if he isn’t home then I’ll let her grandpa try

I try to soothe her myself until I get frustrated. If you feel like your mom is always trying to step in and judging, tell her you appreciate but you got this and then go to another room. Physically being behind w closed door and not feeling that judgment should help. Then, if you do want someone else to try, make it seem like your own choice even if it's not. That will make your confidence look different to others. Sometimes baby just wants someone else but most of the time, baby prefers mom.
And remember, most likely your mom is just trying to help

Use her as help and get some sleep if the cost of me sleeping is putting my ego a side i will pay it now .. of course this is my 2nd baby with my 1st i could never🤣🤣 you will know with 2nd one .. and for me it was the milk smell that kept waking her up to nurse more .. use her and brace her keep saying that she is the only one that make the baby sleep and be thankful ❤️❤️❤️ we need help its a bless

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