Mother in Law!

We told my mother in law we were pregnant in March just after 12 week scan - since then we’ve heard absolutely nothing from her. I’m so frustrated she hasn’t checked in or asked how I am. We haven’t even told her the gender due to lack of communication and she asked when we first told her if we were going to find out. Am I right being pissed off about this? 😂 At this point and if she doesn’t communicate through pregnancy I will not be announcing the birth to her

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My husbands family is like this they live just round the corner and we have so little to do with them. We're always the ones to reach out they're there when we want something and have paid for the cot but I swear if we waited for them to make contact it would never happen. And when they do come round they make there excuses and leave after 5 minutes. My husband is so used to it it doesn't really phase him anymore but my family is so the opposite that It does feel difficult at times.

My family and I barely communicate but when we do, we talk or stay for hours. 😄 but my hubby's family are so family oriented they talk nearly everyday and i find it odd 😂 Please don't be angry at your MIL unless she has created an issue to be angry at. Some families are not good at communication or checking in all the time but still care for each other

Mine has been the exact same. I gave her weekly updates with no response, no concern for how I am etc., the one time I decided to not send it because I was getting nothing back she demanded 'I want the update on MY grandchild' 🫣

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Emergency c section ( back pain)

I’m 6 months pp and since my daughter has been born I’ve been struggling with intense back pain radiating down to my knees . I’ve been referred for physio by my GP but it’s a 15 week wait list … the pain is getting so bad it’s keeping me up at night . Just wondering if any other mamas have experienced the same thing ?

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I’m 35 weeks pregnant and I’ve been having this sharp weird pain all the way down my crotch every time the baby moves. It feels like a lot of pressure but not like “oh he’s moving it’s pressure” pressure. It’s like a wiggle that’s so painful my first reaction is to slap my thigh😂. It feels like he’s about to escape. I’ve never had this pain before. This morning I woke up with my rib cages aching and my back too. I’m sat up straight and all I felt was something trying to escape from my crotch it was so intense and painful!!!!

What is going ONNNN did this happen to anyone else?

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Baby is turning one in September. Does anyone have any good gift ideas. We don't want to go over the top as it's not far from christmas. We would like to get a few bits, but nothing crazy.
5 did people do for a birthday party as I was looking at hiring a hall put, just because we couldn't host both families at our house. But just wondered if there was anything better than this as we would have to set up and do the food ourselves so would just be adding work for us to do

‘You’ll just know when you’re in labour’

I always hear this but starting to get concerned I really won’t! I’ve had a couple of contractions over the past few days (well I believe so). Nothing too painful or strong, enough to feel and backache and diarrhoea. The normal early labour/prodomal labour signs.

However, I have struggled with very bad period pains in the past. Time off work, prescribed painkillers, a laparoscopy that found I had scar tissue connecting my bowel and uterus. I used to describe my period pains as barbed wire being tightened around my insides.

I’d be happy to ignore all my sporadic symptoms and then if it becomes super obvious I’d go in, but because I have strep b, I need to know when I am in labour to be able to go in and get the antibiotics.

Is anyone in a similar situation with really feeling like they might not know until quite late?

I’m also headstrong in the sense that unless I’m feeling sure I wouldn’t want to bother the hospital or drag my partner out of work etc in case it’s nothing…

I’m 39 weeks exactly

A little disappointed by the 16 weeks appointment 🙃

Was told by midwife we would listen to the heartbeat at 16 weeks and that it would be a nice appointment to bring my little one along. Told my little one about it and she was super excited and only to find out they stopped checking heartbeats at 16 weeks just a few weeks ago! 🙃 my little one luckily didn’t react to it when she told us in the appointment but the second we got to the car, she was very upset because she wanted to hear the baby’s heartbeat!!

Is it true you have to not eat 24 hours before a c section?

I had an emergency one last time so I had eaten a couple of hours before but the reason I’m worrying is that I’ve just gone 5 hours without food and genuinely got the shakes, nearly passed out, felt really sick and dizzy. I genuinely don’t think I can do 24 hours of it