If your partner is useless, was he like this pre baby, or only since the baby arrived?

My Husband is great. He's always been great and he's an amazing Dad. He probably does more than me around the house tbh x

I'm sure for me and a lot of moms i just really didn't pay enough attention prior to baby. Then when i needed help it wasn't there. I was young though and had no business raising a baby at that point but at the same time any which way the first is always a learning curve.