Owing someone $800 for helping us
So when we were about to have the baby we had to move across country and was struggling to find a job for a few months. My bd’s uncle had connected us because he noticed his phone had been turned off cus we couldn’t pay it. He then told us he would pay it for a while since he had a high paying job and said not to worry about paying him back so we except the help. Now he is saying we owe him $800 for the time he helped us. When the bill wouldn’t have even added up to that. My bd is saying he’s just going to pay him the money but I don’t see why we should especially not the amount cus that’s 2x the amount the bill would have costed.
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Umm I wouldn't pay anything. That's just me. You offer help? I accept and then you say I owe you? And you're trying to claim more than you actually paid? Nah forget you. Don't get bullied into paying $800. If ya bd is willing to get punked into paying that $800, I wouldn't trust him to have your best interest in mind all the time. This shows he's a sucker and can be made to do anything.
Was it in writing that you would pay him back because if not I wouldn’t pay a single penny because it was help not a loan
If this was me the relationship would already be ruined because they offered help and said we didn’t need to pay them back and then said I owed them money. I wouldn’t trust them anymore. I might give them the money and cut ties with them just so they have nothing to complain to other people about. But I wouldn’t give them anything without bills and proof of payment.
Don’t break or ruin the relationship over money, especially if you’re in a better position to pay him back now. If you hit another hard patch in life later on, you’d want supportive family members on your side willing to help. If you are really hurt by this then just pay him the money and never accept help from him again because he obviously wants some repayment for his generosity. If you don’t want to give him the full $800 just ask him for the monthly bills that he paid for, add them up and give him that amount after letting him know. Money will always come and go in your life, sometimes we have more of it and sometimes we don’t. Also maybe he’s going through some added expenses in life and originally didn’t expect money back but now he’s in a position where he does need it back. Whatever the case is, I wouldn’t take his generosity granted.
Weird situation. I would probably give the cost of the phone bill and never talk to him again.
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