2nd pregnancy guilt.

So I have just found out I’m pregnant again. My boy will be 2 years and 8 months when new baby is due.

I was really excited to tell my very close family in a few days however, this evening one of them has made a few comments that have left me feeling so guilty and bad.
Basically they have a newborn and were saying how hard it must be to have a newborn and a toddler close in age, how the toddler would need to ‘grow up really quickly’ wouldn’t get any time with the parents at all because of the newborn and how they just don’t know how people could do it.

This has made me feel so guilty and bad! I was looking forward to sharing the news in a few days now I don’t even want to.
Am I overthinking and speaking from hormones?
Anyone else been through similar? Please comment. Thank you so much

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I had 2 boys 20 months apart. I carry lots of guilt for both of them and do wish I had kept a bigger gap, but they love eachother so much that it'll bs worth it after my eldest stops napping and can have more 1 on 1 time with me

Wow… I wonder what on earth made them feel the need to make comments like that! First off, ignore them. People can and will make comments and honestly most of them just aren’t worth your energy.

Secondly - I have a 2.5 year age gap. Yes, your first does seem to grow up when newborn arrives. They’re suddenly no longer your baby. And yes, it is harder to spend 1 on 1 time with them - but if you’re committed to it, you make it work (and it helps so much with the eldest and supporting them with the transition from only child to sibling).

But the bond between siblings is the MOST incredible thing. There is nothing to feel guilty about - your eldest WILL adapt, and honestly it doesn’t take long for them to not be able to remember a time their sibling didn’t exist. Seeing mine together now (at 2 and 4) is just… it melts my heart ❤️

exactly!!! It made me so upset! I wouldn’t mind but I have actually brought up potentially thinking about another in the near future so it’s not as if the idea wasn’t already spoken about! I just don’t get why the comments would be made around me!

Thank you so much I did really need to hear this 🙂 I’m excited at the thought of them being so close in age too x

I had my second child when my first was 2 years 11 months. I had a c section so I couldn’t pick her up for 6 weeks and I felt absolutely horrible. What helped me was having my husband home for a few weeks so we could sort of tag team taking care of the kids. I also did special outings with just my older child so she didn’t feel ignored. Having them play next to each other I think helped too. and giving lots of hugs ofc

thank you so much for this ❤️

thank you. I’m probably having a planned c section too so I do worry about this. My boy is already so independent though and doesn’t really want to be picked up anymore which has eased my anxiety a little.
Definitely going to make sure I do alone time with toddler as he’s such a mummy’s boy x

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