Uk mums - when an incident happens at nursery and your child tell you about it but nursery never mentioned anything, do you do anything about it?
My LG 3 has been at nursey since January. She’s told me a few times since January that someone has hit her or something along those lines! I always asked her what happened and what did she do about it and she always says “I told my teacher and my teacher told them not to do that”. Today she told me a child smacked her across the face and when I asked her what happened and what did she do about it? She said she was talking to her friend and another child came and smacked her in the face. Then she said she went and told her teacher Miss L and Miss L told the child to apologise and the child did apologise.
My issue is, should nursery be at least mentioning something happened even though they dealt with it? Just so you’re aware as a parent. I’m not expecting them to give me the child’s name but just a basic, “oh just to let you know, this happened today but we dealt with it and everything is fine”.
What do you do in these situations?
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Nursery should definitely say something. I always get told if my daughter is involved in anything like that.
However, she regularly tells me someone bit or hit her, when they absolutely did not. Lying is very common at this age.
Definitely mention your concerns to nursery, though. If you're really concerned that they are deliberately not telling you about this, you can make a complaint to Ofsted, who will investigate.
I work in a nursery and I don’t think we usually really mention to the parents if something like this happened unless it was something that made the child really upset/ bruise/scratch/bite etc and then it would be put in an accident form. The other child’s parent on the other hand would be informed of every incident that happens.
However, if you want to know about it then you can ring up and just mention and ask what is being done about it if there’s any plans in place why your daughter is being hit etc to give you comfort
Most of the time if it’s just a small thing and the child is fine after no marking etc then usually it won’t be mentioned because there’s isn’t necessarily a need to share it because, children are children and there will never be a day where if you put 20 kids together at least one hasn’t had unkind hands or something similar. It’s also usually not wanted to stress or worry parents unnecessarily when the child is fine afterwards!
You can always ask to be updated on it. but usually the practice is that if a child is happy, not injured, and goes about their play within a few moments of the accident then it’s not pressed on
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