When is it weird?

I've seen a handful of posts talking about nudity in the house around young kids and I feel like it's agreed that it's normal for there to be a naked mom or to see mom naked, but my question is if it applies to dad? Is mom allowed to be naked (not in a creepy way obvi) but Dad has to be covered all the time? Is it okay if Dad is seen naked getting out of the shower/getting dressed?? Is it okay if he's boxers only in the house? And bath time, can they take a bath/shower with Dad while they're still little (like 6 or younger). Does it change if it's a son or daughter? If theres an age where it changes what is it?
**not including any weird or over sexualized behavior or motives because that's a separate topic and obviously those cases aren't ever okay**

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My son sees my husband showering, not sure how I would feel if we had a little girl but it doesn’t seem as okay.

I don’t really have any strong feelings on it. If they walk into the bathroom while the door is closed, they might see someone naked. Not that big a deal. No one in the house really walks around naked tho cuz we don’t really want to lol

Okay so I have a son. He is under 2. I take baths with him sometimes and he sees me naked. I think I will stop doing this once he starts staring or asking questions about my body. So maybe around 2 or 3? Idk but I for sure don’t want my son to have ANY memory of me naked. But for my husband I think it would still be fine if our son saw him naked a few years longer, since they have the same body parts ya know? And vise versa if we had a girl, maybe I could get away with it for longer but not my husband.

Both are ok in certain situations...
Like I said certain situations, so breast feeding is ok but I wouldn't go around without a shirt on while doing that. Bathtimes are ok until a certain age and I may wear some clothing if I join (don't think I ever will I have my reasons).

I feel like it a feel the room type thing.

Depends on the family. I mean some people are literally nudists, so obviously for them it isn't weird

I would say, most men try to keep their privates covered because they're scared of a kid going to school and saying "I saw daddy's penis" and someone freaking out and called Child Protection.

Realistically, if a mum can be naked (shower, changing) and it's ok, it should be the same for dad.

I really don't have a choice, if my son is home and awake when showering he will come and say hi because he has separation anxiety 😭

My almost 4 year old follows my husband to the bathroom all the time. It doesn’t bother anyone so I think it’s fine.

I don't agree with little kids seeing any adult naked. Accidents happen but on purpose absolutely not!

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