Co-sleeping help
Hi everyone. I really need some help. I’m a first time mum and I’ve admittedly made a huge mistake when it comes to my babies sleep routine.
My son’s been in his next to me crib since birth. He’s never been easy to put down and has never slept through the night but we’d get there eventually…both exhausted but successful.
Anyway, we went on holiday 4 weeks ago and the bed was so huge that we decided to put LO in the bed with us (following safe sleep guidelines). He slept through EVERY single night. It was a dream. Baby was happy, both parents felt so refreshed, happy and energised again. You can see where this is going…
We got home and continued to co - sleep expecting the same results. As our son grows he is becoming more mobile and wiggly so no one is sleeping well. We’ve tried to transition him back into his crib but he is inconsolable. I tried for 2 hours to settle him one night to the point where he was sick and I felt like the biggest failure of a mother in the world. I’m at a loss of what to do. We’ve tried so many times to transition him but nothing is working. My heart can’t bear to let him cry it out. The longest I can take is 5 minutes and it makes me feel physically ill.
Does anyone have any advice please?
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How does he fall asleep? Bottle/boob/rocking/cuddling?
He’s never been one for rocking/cuddling. We normally give him a bottle in his crib and shhh him/place a hand on his chest until he drifts off x
Not sure if I have advice as I’m a FTM as well but I have coslept with my baby since essentially the beginning, like you, we found that it was the best way that everyone got the most rest out of but yeah he’s growing now and he’s kicking me/wriggling lots during the night so we are starting to consider moving him to his room, my plan is to get a floor bed so I can lay with him (I nurse him to sleep) and then hopefully easily I can sneak away, tbh I’m fully expecting him to be okay for a few hours and then I’ll probably bring him back to our bed or just sleep with him in his bed 😂 anyway! Hope it helps xx
I co slept with my first for 2 years and although I have now moved my son to his own room, we have on off co slept til now! I love it and I have always slept in ‘cuddle curl’position which I find stops them wriggling or unsettling. Sorry no advice to get them out the bed as I give in when they wake up lol 😅🤦🏽♀️ hence the 2 year bed sharing!!
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