What would you do: correct husband for child’s comfort or let it go? AITA?

If you were at your wits end (24/7 SAHM doing the vast majority of all things house and child related) and asked your husband to change son’s pjs because he got them all wet with water he poured on himself and he grabbed pjs that were very temperature and situationally not ideal. Like our son had a temperature yesterday and is still getting over a cold, it’s warm where we are, we are co sleeping due to his upset nature from his cold, and my husband grabbed full zip up Christmas tree FLEECE pjs.

Now I’m already irritated by my son’s misbehaving he finally is getting his energy back post cold but I haven’t yet and I am struggling (husband is not sick) so I say to him hey I think he will be too hot in those can you grab something else and he just puts the pjs down and leaves our son in just a diaper. Leaves the room… I know he’s thinking “fine then do it yourself”

I specifically try not to nitpick or micromanage when he does try and do stuff so not to deter him and make him feel like he can’t do anything right .. BUT I also don’t want to put his ego and feelings above my son’s comfort and well being. Am I crazy for that? AITA?

in our community

Guys I’m doing something that’s potentially kinda wrong involving a woman in my gym lol, do you think this is likely to play out in my favor?

So I had Aflac for my kids dental but I didn’t realize my husband I guess canceled or didn’t renew our policy, anyways after a few apts I got an invoice about dental bills, turns out I owe my kids dentist 2k. I didnt pay it yet because it’s just not on my short list of things to worry about lol, so fast forward a few weeks and boom I see my kids dentist at the gym, she owns the whole dental place btw it’s like her private practice or whatever, and I say hi and then lately every time I see her we end up chatting, i already told her I recognize her from her work and whatever but eventually after a few months and maybe some flattery and chumminess I think im going to tell her I have this outstanding bill and just see if she waives it 😅 also, not that I really need to add this but I could pay it outright right now, I just really don’t want to detract from my savings, I have a strict savings plan and my husband and I arent like brutally suffering but we’re def NOT well off. Every time I establish some savings it’s like disaster strikes, someone’s car goes out, random medical crap, etc. so I’m always anxious to touch it.

Working parents

How on earth do people actually work and have kids of school age 😥 by the time you have done the morning commute you are starting work late then you have to leave work early to go pick them up!! I actually don't know how people do it? School clubs are also first come first served each term so cannot even guarantee your employer the same hours each term!

Relapse

A month ago I found a baggy in my husband’s laundry. I confronted him on it and we had a long genuine conversation. He admitted he relapsed. Told me he won’t do it again (silly me to believe it) and that was basically that. Today.. God.. yes God told me to go into the bathroom and search under the vanity. There is a lip where the sink goes and meets with the bottom half of the vanity. It’s a perfect gap on both sides to hide things. And I found a ton of paraphernalia. So this is how I want to handle this, I want to pick him up and drop him off at meetings (I found one already), I want him on my phone plan with a new number, and I want life 360. If he can not do these three things he needs to leave my home. When I think about what I need for once these are the three things I need to rebuild trust and move forward. Is it going to prevent him from using? Probably not.. but it will make me feel better. I was very understanding and nice the first time, but I will not tolerate this any longer. We have a newborn. This is inexcusable and I will not have him in my child’s life like this. So he needs to make the decision. If he chooses to leave over these three simple requests then I know he’s not ready to be sober. I asked my mother in law (yes we are close and I told her) if this was too much and she said absolutely not.. if anything it’s not enough. What do you think?

Am I justified in being upset/annoyed

I have just seen that my Dad has marked on the family calendar that him and I’m guessing my mum are going to a concert from 18:30 till late on the same date as my daughters 2nd birthday which is on a Monday. I feel like either they have just forgotten that that is her birthday or don’t care. Either way am I justified in being upset and annoyed that they have booked this on her birthday or am I being over sensitive?

Toxic relationship

My partner always tells me I do nothing and that all I do is take and that he pays for everything and I couldn’t afford shit without him. Our baby is 18 months old and im a stay at home mum who attempted to go back to work but had to quit due to the stress of unreliable childcare. I just don’t know what to do at this point I love him and I want to make it work but I just feel like I’m constantly making myself smaller to try keep the peace

12 year old girl and chores

My 12 year old has learned the term weaponized incompetence and had begun to implement this into her chores/tasks.
She started this with her older brother and it worked effortlessly to get him to do everything that the pair was tasked to do, at my house or at their granny's. I had noticed that she wasnt doing as many chores as before but I would just comment and say she needed to help and move on doing other things. I was not properly informed of the extent of this until recently when she thought it was perfected enough to pull it on my husband and I.
For example, she was told to "deep" clean the bathroom. She went in the cleaning cabinet and grabbed all the "necessary" supplies and i walked away to work on something else outside. When i came back in the house it smelled like bug spray. I asked her why and she just looked at me innocently and said well I didnt see the bleach spray bottle so I just used this instead.
I told my son that he is NOT to give in and just do it himself cause that's what she is wanting and that he is to send her back to redo the task/chore as many times as is needed til she does it correctly.
My question to all of you. What else would you do about fixing this issue?