What do I do? I can’t handle this anymore
I have a 2 year old and am 13 weeks pregnant again. That’s probably my first problem, I shouldn’t have fallen pregnant again when my husband and I had still had some rocky moments. Anyway, since falling pregnant, we are fighting ALL the time. Literally every single week and it’s lasting daysss before we’re remotely speaking civil again. This time is the worst, we’re on day 9 and it’s so toxic. You can blame the “pregnancy hormones” but I tried to leave this man in the past just because of the way he handles communication and conflict and then what he does to make himself feel better. Anyway, this time has been pushed too far, in the last couple of weeks he’s told me “do you have somewhere else to go because I paid for more of this house and our daughter will be staying in our home” mind you I don’t have family who live close (and we both share the bills evenly). He’s also made comments when I say “see you soon” to our daughter that “no you won’t”, he pushed me to breaking point last night when I was hysterically crying and he walked away, came back and tried to hug me and I said leave me alone and he said “I don’t know you, our daughters not safe with you”, he accused me of drinking alcohol, when I tried to get back to bed after he barged into my room (been sleeping apart) and turned the light on and I bumped into him trying to turn the light off, he threw himself to the ground and accused me of pushing him (a 6”+ man). He’s an emotional rollercoaster, I keep telling him we need time apart and one minute he’s saying he’ll fight to the end and loves me so much and then he’s making these vindictive comments or false accusations, or he’s down my throat that “I need to do this for him and that”. I have no where else to go and his family live close. He thinks cause he had a health scare it’s a “get out of jail free card” and because I’m still upset he just attacks me for being so selfish. I’ve put up with so much for so long I just don’t know what to do, and because I’m pregnant makes it worse. I feel like he will ruin my life if I leave. But I’m so miserable, I can’t handle living like this anymore.
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Try to get a camera and put it up so you can catch these antics and maybe you can get a restraining order on him ehn you leave or possibly try to set something up with family that lives far and move with them for a short while
I dont know where abouts you are but your midwife will ask if things are ok at home, you could tell her (unless he comes to those appointments?) You'll be able to get a place for you and the children.
This sounds like hes emotionally abusing you.
Do you regret becoming pregnant again? Xx
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