In law issues
I’ve never been especially fond of my in laws. They are unfriendly and unkind about people, and generally just not pleasant to be around. They’re nice on the surface but can be really toxic about people behind their back, and can be quite controlling. They made my postpartum hell by being so hostile towards me for weeks when I said I didn’t want to spend Christmas Day with them.
I always just got on with it as they’re my partner’s family and I’ve tried to make an effort to involve them in my child’s life. They love our child very much and are very kind to him.
Most recently though they said something racist in passing conversation. I cannot abide racism and it’s made me disgusted with them, I don’t want them around my child at all and don’t want him to be influenced by their nasty and bigoted opinions. My partner thinks they’re small minded but doesn’t actively think it’s a huge issue. What would you do in these circumstances?
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Unfortunately you're unlikely to be able to change their ignorant views. To keep the peace for your husband, minimising contact with them for you and your son is probably the best option. You will bring up your child to be kind and accepting of others and he'll know their views are wrong x
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