My bf just broke up with me for the same reason the last 4 boyfriends I’ve had left me…
My bf told me he can’t do this anymore, and it’s not a reflection of me. He said when we got together he couldn’t believe he got lucky to find me, let alone that I was single. He said I am literally the perfect woman, and I’m the type of person everyone should want to be more like… but now he understands why I’m single and people don’t want to be with me and it comes down to one thing: my parents. He says they are so critical of every person I and my sisters date, and they tare them down so much they feel worthless. He said he used to be proud of his life… his house, his job, his situation… but they make him feel like a loser and now he’s ashamed of those same things because they always say he’s not enough. He says they get in his head and make him feel depressed, and he doesn’t want to feel like that again, so he can’t stay with me. He can’t be in a family that constantly tells him he’s not good enough, even though no one will ever be good enough.
The thing is, I’ve heard this before. It’s why all my partners leave. They all hate my parents. It’s also why my sisters boyfriends leave. I have five sisters, and currently only one of us in a relationship that my parents actually approve of, and only because he comes with a multimillion dollar trust fund… and in turn they have been heavily critical of my sister to not “fuck this up” and she feels pressured to stay even though she feels they want different things in life.
I just feel a little lost, because I meet these great men and it always come down to my family, not anything I did wrong. I’ve even lost some friendships because they can’t stand how my parents act… but i try to cut off my parents and they black mail me or manipulate me by saying im a bad mother for taking their grandkids away from them. I just really don’t know what to do anymore.
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Girl that's not their place. You are living a life you want with YOUR Family and you are not marrying your parents. They need to back off. That is a sick and toxic relationship even if it's your parents. I would record and keep everything on record and maybe place a restraining order. Enough is enough. They can't stop you from being your own person in life. I'm sorry your and your sisters have to go through this but that is not love. I think your parents need some type of therapy and stay out of your business unless you ask. I pray they back off and let you guys breathe and love one another.
You need to cut your parents off. This isn’t normal.
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