Step children

I would refuse to do it because I like people to be held accountable for what they need to be accountable for and parenting accountability which is his job..

But that is just my two cents, everyone is different

Coming from a biological parent who raised their child alone for almost 9 years and then co-parented with toxic people for almost 6 years.... I can tell you from experience that it is not hard to go through the court and ask for things to be modified so if he gets anxiety from his ex at pickup then he can request modification and have it publicly somewhere where he is comfortable and explain why... unless it's far out if the way or a inconvenience where pick up/drop is not now.... then he should be able to get it approved

Tbh it says more about the bio mom than it does about him if he’s too anxious to be near her. But yes it is unfair, if you were unwell or had an appointment he would have to just get on with it

Once I had someone with me while co-parenting with my son's dad's wife ( because his dad wasn't allowed to do it lol alot ) ...

I hardly ever asked my spouse to do parent pick-up or drop off because it was not his place to go out of his way to do it even though I know he would have...
I only asked on days I was sick...

I'm not sorry for feeling the way I do because I believe as a parent we are supposed to do what is needed done for our children, not always rely on others to help us no matter who they are or how close they are. I feel that someone having someone else get their children more than they do is more about laziness and depending on someone to do things for you than about the anxiety... there is medicine for anxiety and it does work... and it worth paying for if insurance doesn't cover it